First date in 20 years tonight...!

[separated]

After 20 mostly hellish years with my stbxh I am on a date tonight. Eek. Have done all the sensible things like letting people know when and where. Not going to drink; going to drive for an easy exit. Have spent a week sorting out what to wear.

Excited. Nervous. Worried I am looking for too much too quickly. Husband only ended it at Xmas and we're still both in the house, with our children, until the house sells.

Wish me luck!

Good luck! Hope it goes well. I.haven't had a date in.years

Wow, good luck Sep :)

Relax, be your usual wonderful self, and have a great time, honey - and I hope this'll be the first of many.

Good luck and please come back with the salacious details an update

Okay. I'll be back later!

Have a lovely time :)

Have fun! Keep it light n breezy - if he starts trying to get you to talk about marriage breakup and past relationship etc just say 'I'm out with you I dont want to talk about other men' (with a sweet smile)

Thanks for the advice. Will try to heed it PopcornGrace.

No problem.

And if he keeps on (some men do) just get get your lipstick/lipgloss out and put some on slowly and say 'sorry what were you saying..??' (another sweet smile)

Ive been dating again after five years, he burps and farts, sees me in the same clothes three days running, never smells nice, and hardly ever shaves

Its pretty shit to be honest.

But good luck.

I did something I'm not proud of.
I walked out. Ran out actually when he went to the toilet.
I know I should have handled it better. I know. And I do feel terrible about it. Maybe I'm just not ready.

Why? There must have been something that made you wanted to see him in the first place?

Separated...wow, what happened? Was it an online thing? Was it THAT bad? nosy intrigued

I can't explain my bad handling of the situation. I just had to leave. Yes I met him online.

Oh! How bad could it have been that you had to ditch him?

Did u not like him then?

You* sorry everyone

was he boring?

Boring, to me. And I think I simply am not ready. I have apologised to him. By text. It was cowardly to run out, I know that. Not proud of my actions.

I'm sure he'll survive! well done for apologising, if he's a good person he'll understand that it wasn't really personal after such a long time not dating. But ther is nothing worse than sitting through a boring date - next time if you meet online try talking on the phone first to gauge whether you won't be bored (and it's best to see a photo), better tsill try to meet men in real life, much less pressure then!

See it as a practice run! And better in many ways that he was a complete stranger rather than a friend of a friend or something who you will have to keep seeing :) Onwards and upwards

Oh dear, poor you - he must have been boring to warrant such drastic action.

Next time make sure you go to the loo first and return talking on your phone before picking up your coat and explaining that you need get home urgently because the babysitter is unwell, or some such excuse.

Or, better still, arrange to meet during the week for a quick coffee to check them out.

separated it was your first time, be gentle on yourself. Ok, so running out was probably not the best thing, but I'm sure it was the only way you felt you could deal with it. Don't fret about it, there are lots of shennanigans when it comes to online dating.

If you're not ready to date, then don't, it won't necessarily make you feel good if you're emotionally fragile.

When you are ready though, give it a go, no expectations, just have fun.

Good luck

PS..You may have been in a hellish relationship for 20 years, but you still need to heal from that as you will be very vulnerable without realising, trust me, I have experienced exactly that xx

Thanks for not being too hard on me.
I think I need to wait until a few more changes have happened. The house needs to sell. I need to move house with my children. I need to learn to enjoy my own company again and find out who I then am.

You just need more time.