I feel sad that my sister never makes an effort.

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My little sister and I used to fight as kids and i was mean to her sometimes but generally we got on.
I had a breakdown when I was 21 and she has been distant and mean ever since. She told me to stop feeling sorry for myself and to pull myself together. Since my dd was born she has been nicer; when she sees us but she never, ever phones up. Not even to see how my dd is.
I have tried phoning her. I am just so hurt that she never supports me when I'm down. If I tell her a problem she is completely judgemental and dismissive. She has a good life as she watched me make my mistakes and did the opposite. I can't rely on her forgiveness or compassion. I try to be nice to her but I feel so sad that she won't make the effort back.

Maybe she doesn't know how to deal with your problems? so just dismisses them iyswim

My younger sister is exactly the same, its like her maturity has been stunted. Ive spent a life time picking up the emotional messes my sister has got herself into and she has almost relied on me like a second Mum. My DDs father left us at 7 months pregant, my sister refused, just refused to baby sit and has only ever taken my DD out once in her life when she was 17 yrs old. When I lost a job 3 years ago from a very high position in the nastiest most personal way possible, she didnt once ring me. Recently she got made redundant and had a years payoff which she hasnt stopped telling us all about, I rang her and saw her and was generally sympathetic. But in an arguement she said how she was going through shit and I had not been there for her !!! When I mentioned she had not once rang me after I lost my job she said ok we are bad sisters ! Honestly I could have killed her. I am absolutely definite that if she was nt my sister I would never be friends or have anything to do with her. I feel for you.