Would you be just a teensy bit peeed off?

[Mosschops30]

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DH KNEW you'd react like that which is why he didnt tell you til you were in the car hoping you'd give in

too right

if he;s that selfish then 2 can play at that game

having said that, DS is a bit too young to understand he didnt bother BUT its the principal

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Is he a younger brother by chance, with few respnsibilities? Sounds a bit spoilt - no doubt he'll grow up one day!

oh well saved you going out in the cold air

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Er, I'd have picked up brother, childless people can be excused from remembering 1yo bdays imo!

How old is the brother? My dp's older brother didn't even see my ds2 for about 6mnths and only then did he do it by accident. DS2 is only 7mnths now. It was at a bday party, he didn't even speak to me or comment on the new arrival so i know how you feel. Think men don't care as much about kids things as women so try not to take it personally or let him affect oyur relationship. Having said that my dp agrees that his bro is an arse so we don't have this problem!!!! But if he didn't agree i would have done same as you he sounds a tit!!!

is this relly an " AM I UNRESONABLE" thread in disguise> mc?!

Sorry to hear that you have a shit b-i-l, but I would have picked him up too. My brother never sends my kids cards and he never bothered to come to see us over Christmas (even though I'm the one who flew over from France and sent him lots of emails with our phone number, etc) he didn't even call. Yet if he wanted something I'd do it for him no question! This is your dh's brother so really it's between the two of them. Snubbing him will only make matters worse, not better.

why did you give him presents that you'd bought? just so the kids would have something from him?
why???

i really don't think it's worth falling out over, and definitely not worth arguing with your dh over. .
so he missed a birthday party? so what?

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lol

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Why not send him reminders then just before your kids birthdays?
Dh's family don't do birthdays. They don't even send each other cards! I thought it a bit wierd at first but now I see that it makes sense, it would be a pain in the arse to keep it up for all of them and their kids. Just let it go, live and let live. You are probably more bothered by it than your kids will ever be!

but 'd have just said no! you want to buy them something you do it yourself, or give me the money now.

don't pander to him

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