Stupid crush. Help me to get over myself !

[anniedunne]

Sounds ridiculous. I'm in my late thirties and have realised I have a crush on the dad of one of dd's school friends. The girls have playdates in the usual way (they are 10) and as he's the sah parent he does the picking up, school runs etc. He's just normal and pleasant I've been casually friendly with him and his (lovely) wife for a while but I feel stupid for looking forward to seeing this guy, feeling unduly pleased if we bump into each other etc. I'd NEVER dream of trying to take things further, I have a wonderful dh etc, it's just inappropriate thoughts keep popping into my head ! What's WRONG with me fgs ?!

Nothing's wrong with you. It only would be if you acted on it, which you're not going to.

Just censor any flirtiness, and keep in mind how destructive it would be for loads of people, including you, if you did try to take this crush further. That should kill any ardour.

Thanks ! Absolutely no chance I'd act on it. I go all puritanical when I hear about extra marital naughtiness. Just taken aback at how strongly I feel. And honestly I have a great relationship with a wonderful dh, no resentments or boredom or any other obvious reason why I'd start drooling (in my head) over someone else's dh. Suppose I should "enjoy" and just wait till I calm down...

Go on a weekend away with your DH - maybe just remind yourself how good you have it right now :)