ten years of marriage and now I think I need to have the courage to break away - but i don't. It was an arranged marriage, that I was kind of emotionally blackmailed into. he's not from the UK and our outlook is very very different. He's from a male-dominated society and it shows. Over the years I've had to put up with MIL coming over every couple of years and staying for months' at a time. He's controlling and doesn't like me going out with friends. he doesn't actually say this but gets in a mood when I do, to the point that i've stopped having a social life and have very few friends. he has anger issues and sometimes blows up over little things and loses it big time. I've explained this is not acceptable but apparently I provoke him by speaking to him disrespectfully. we have three DCs under ten. he is good with them but I worry about the impact his outbursts have on them. He doesn't like me having opinions that are different to his. he doesn't like it if I am ever rude to extended family, even if it is justified. But I can't leave. my mum would be devastated. I think we need a third party to mediate between us. To show him where his behaviour is unaccepatable and maybe where I am in the wrong too. would this be a good move? has anyone ever tried this.