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My ex keeps texting me and I'm in a happy new relationship!!!

14 replies

hattieboo2012 · 27/02/2012 12:39

I broke up with my ex in 2009. We occasionally text each other and every now and then he text that he still loved me. I always text back that I'm happy being friends but i still get texts saying same thing even now3 years later! I remained single until last summer when i met someone and moved in together. I'm very happy with my new boyfriend.

I have a new phone now but every month or so I switchy old
One on to check for any messages and almost every time I switch it on there's a text from ex! I would hate for new bf to see it and jump to conclusions so what should I do?

Shousld I tell my bf that ex keeps texting me occasionally and ask if he'd like me to text ex saying I'm in a new relationship and very happy and not to text me anymore or what? I don't know what to do!

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Lueji · 27/02/2012 12:41

Or just get rid of old phone and not check texts?
Do you get any other messages on that phone?

mummytime · 27/02/2012 12:41

I assume you don't have kids with the ex? In that case I would tell your new bf, and then donate your old phone to charity and forget about the ex.

Finallyfinally · 27/02/2012 12:42

How long are you planning on keeping two phones on the go?

Can you block his number? Have you texted back to say enough's enough?

AnyFucker · 27/02/2012 12:45

I reckon you should wait until your completely oblivious and lovely new partner finds your "secret" phone and discovers the texts saying "I love you" from your ex

That's a good plan

Or maybe what not to do. Your choice.

squeakytoy · 27/02/2012 12:47

Seriously? You sound about 15...

Make sure your friends have your new number, ditch the old phone and stop looking for texts from your ex (as that is the only possible reason for looking, and you sound as if it is a bit of an ego boost that your ex sneds you these texts).

You are in a relationship with someone else, you have no need to text your ex as it is none of his business.

mumbaisapphire · 27/02/2012 13:26

Get rid of the old phone and cut all contact - assuming there are no kids involved. I would also be honest with your new partner and say he's been contacting you but you are going to put a stop to it all. Your ex clearly doesn't respect where you are now and so the friendship needs to stop.

NatashaBee · 27/02/2012 13:32

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scarletforya · 27/02/2012 13:34

Er, just throw out the old phone. Easy.

solidgoldbrass · 27/02/2012 13:36

It's not, actually, a terrible crime to sneakily enjoy the ego-boost of someone still being in love with you. But it does tend to cause aggravation in the long run. Either contact this XP and say, look, how about some therapy to help you move on? I am with a new partner who I really love and would like you to be happy with someone else as well...
Or just cut contact, change number and ignore.

CheeseandPickledOnion · 27/02/2012 13:38

Jesus christ. You had to post to ask how to sort this out? You couldn't figure out a simple solution all on your own?

Bin Phone
if phone is still needed text ex and tell him to stop texting you that you're happy, moved on and don't love him.

Wow, difficult that wasn't it.

cuteboots · 27/02/2012 13:38

throw the old phone away! Your are in a new relationship if I was your new bloke I wouldlnt be very happy about tbis

WineGoggles · 27/02/2012 13:54

Hattie, so, you have a wonderful BF of many months, yet, even though you get those ?love you? texts from an ex you haven?t told the ex that you?re in a relationship! What has stopped you telling the ex? Do you reply to his texts and, if so, what do you say? Something is stopping him moving on after all this time and I suspect you?re somehow stringing him along, either deliberately or inadvertently. Just tell him that you?re in a relationship and that he needs to move on and stop sending you these texts. Besides, it?s not healthy to be in contact with him unless you?re hoping to get back together. Personally I think it?s best to cut contact with him altogether; either get rid of the phone or change the sim card so he can?t text you any more. I suspect you enjoy being chased by him though? Are you completely over him?

annelg1 · 27/02/2012 13:59

Are you keeping and checking the old phone because you get some sort of satisfaction from seeing texts from your ex? Do you still need his attention in some way?
If the honest answer to all these questions is - 'No', you'll get rid of that old phone.

solidgoldbrass · 27/02/2012 15:59

Actually, OP, are you scared of the XP? Is it a case of feeling that as long as he still sends the texts he's not going to do anything more alarming like turn up on the doorstep?

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