Just that really and I wondered whether the wise MNers might have any advice.
Am not on the pill so it's not that. I do have anxiety problems but these are largely controlled with Citalopram. I feel stable most of the time.
I have fairly recently cut down massively on alcohol consumption and also stopped taking another substance which I had a long-running problem with. I exercise regularly and eat healthily. I get enough sleep. OH is very lovely and does his bit helping with the children and around the house etc.
TBH, I'm not sure my libido has ever been entirely 'normal'. My first sexual relationship, when I was 16, was an odd one. He had strange sexual tastes and I was often put under pressure to perform acts I wasn't all that comfortable about. He once offered me money for a sexual favour and had an unhealthy and intrusive interest in my body generally e.g. wanted to insert tampons for me when I was on the blob. I do sometimes find myself wondering how much of an effect those experiences had on me.
In addition, my parents always had a very buttoned-up approach to it all when I was growing up. They never talked about it openly. My mum gave me a birds and bees type chat but it was all a bit hushed and embarrassed and very serious. I think I grew up thinking it was all a bit taboo. When I embarked on sexual activities as a late teenager, there was a MASSIVE sense of guilt surrounding it all.
Well, this post was longer than I thought it'd be. Wasn't sure I was going to mention all of that stuff but I can't help but wonder if it's relevant.
On the one hand, I am telling myself that, due to my recent lifestyle changes, perhaps my body is just adjusting and the libido might come back naturally. On the other hand, I can't deny that my sex drive has always been very up and down and I wonder if I might need to address some of my more ingrained views on sex.
Any thoughts or opinions would be much appreciated.