Hi :( DH and I have been together 15 years and have 2 DC. He has always had a high sex drive - me, not so much since the children (and also, time - you can't still be at it like rabbits after 15 years can you??). Anyway, we haven't dtd since Xmas. We have done mutual masturbation a couple of times but no penetration.
DH is getting very upset about it, can't sleep, is very huffy and cross and sulky with me. I have told him that every time he behaves like this it puts me off having sex with him but I can also see his point that the sexual side of our relatinship is important too. Have told him to masturbate if he wants to but he says it's no fun without me (gahhhh). So, who's right??
I know he shouldn't guilt me into having sex if I don't want to; but honestly I just don't fancy him as much as I used to or have much of a sex drive at all. I never fantastise or think about sex. No idea why not.
Our relationship is basically good, though we argue like everyone does!
Where can we go from here? And can I grow to fancy him/want sex more again?