Would love your opinion on my SIL please?

[Shazjack1]

My DH is livid with his sister but hasn't said anything to her yet. We all live in the North and she has decided to sell up and move 6 hours away to be near her daughter and grandchildren (which is totally understandable) but has also asked my FIL who is 86 to go with her without even mentioning it to DH! FIL is considering it and DH feels hurt and angry. He will hardly ever see his father if he moves and thinks his sister is being selfish for asking him to go, especially considering my FIL age. DH doesn't know whether to confront my SIL for fear of falling out with her if he speaks his mind. Would love to have an outside opinion please?

Thanks for all your input, it's been really helpful (DH didn't see it that way though). He only wanted to hear the opinions of people who agreed with him, told him there weren't any! Hopefully he might take heed though.

It depends on what your FIL feels he wants to do.

I assume your DH is upset about the idea of the house being sold?

My grandfather refused to leave his house and move in with my parents. It meant that my mother was, by the end, going around three times a day for an hour at a time, to take each meal and keep him company.

It's up to your FIL. His memories will be with him wherever he goes, they're not confined to bricks & mortar. There could be benefits to a move for him, and I think it's right of your SIL to offer him the chance to move with her. If she just bogged off, the care of him in his old age would fall on you almost entirely.

Yeah, right. And I'm starkers underneath my uggs and thermal undies, AF

< sips cocktails and submits to fanning by half-dressed young maaaan >

but have you trained him to peel grapes properly?