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Is he stubborn or delusional ?

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K0404 · 26/02/2012 12:16

Is the anyone out there dealing with a stubborn or delusional oh ? I have completely fallen out of love with him due to his disgusting behaviour. It's not a one time incident it's been going on for nearly a year and it's been horrible. I'd like to think there was something I could to to get feelings back but he's just horrid ! We seperated for a short while but I had to come back to the flat as I was unable to stay where I was anymore. I've told him I feel nothing for him at all, he doesn't even make me angry anymore I just feel nothing. He seems to take it in then goes on to act/behave like ive just told him i love him not that i dont have feelings for him! He touches me cudfles me and asks for sex eventhough I've made it quite clear I don't love him and one of us needs to move. We have a ds and I really don't want to uproot him again but I'm afraid I might have to co oh days he'll move into other room then move out but nothing ever materialises and in the mean time keeps trying to behave like we're a normal happy
physical couple. I literally remind him every day how I feel cos he behaves like I've not said anything, and when I do remind him he goes crazy about how I'm not even willing to try and make it work! TBelive me ive tried but to much has hsppened and ive finally realised thanks to some ladies on here that why on earth do i want to learn to love someone thats done what he's done to me? I must be crazy! This argument happens everyday cos he insists on ignoring whay i say (consciously or subconsciously) it's driving me insane!

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swallowedAfly · 02/03/2012 08:31

well given the amount of rapes they don't even prosecute on it does make you hopeful they feel confident about the evidence.

so glad you got into a refuge, i think even if you could stay and get him kept away it just isn't worth it for a rented flat and the place would always remind you of him and your time together and you'd always be looking over your shoulder. this way there can be a new start and all the support of the refuge to deal with what he has done to you and what you need to do to move forward and have a happier and safer life from now on.

coming to this late obviously but wanted to post and offer encouragement. will you have to give evidence in court? how are you feeling about the coming weeks?

K0404 · 02/03/2012 10:33

Thanks your messages are a godsend. Ive already done a video intervew on the day it happened so that will be my evidence in court and of I'm cross examined it'll be from another room. Under what corcumstances wil I have to go to crown and be cross examined?

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