What do your DC call step grandparents?

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Just looking for some suggestions. About to have first DC and fil and step-mil will be visiting. What shall we/dc call step-mil? It's all a pretty new and tricky situation so it's not like we're really close, but I like her and want something other than just her name, but nothing that will upset my mil (she'll be 'gran').

My SDC's call my Mum by her name, but I suppose I'd hope if they have kids themselves, they would call me Granny - even though we'd not be biologically related.

Our DDs have 3 'grandads'- my dad, DH's dad and my step-dad. They're all called 'Grandad' but we differentiate by adding their first names e.g. Grandad John etc.

It's lovely to see step-grandparents getting a title.

When I was 8 my Mum remarried. From the day I met my SF's parents I had to call them Mr & Mrs Theirsurname. This did not help family bonding .

I had my own GP's but wish even now that I'd had names for my SGP's. Calling them Mr & Mrs made me feel awful.

They're Granny X, Granny Y and Nanny Z. And Grandpa R, Grandad S and Grandad T. I don't think it's useful or necessary to distinguish between the blood relatives and the step ones. The kids know Granny Y and Grandad T used to be married and are dh's mum and dad, but their respective partners get the honorific of grandparent names as well. Seems rude not to. If anyone doesn't like it, they don't say so.

My step-parents are Nanny and Grandad. They are as much in my family as my biological parents.

By their first name as that's what DH's step Dad wanted.

We went for 'Auntie' and 'Uncle' and that worked until we had our own DD, so over the years it's Grandma and Grandad from both and everyone's happy with that.

As DD1's paternal grandmother died before she was born and my mother has refused to have anything to do with me since she was three, her step grandmother is the only grandmother she has ever known.

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We've got a a get-out on this, as my step-mum, who's been with my Dad for over 20 years, is German, and so my little DC will refer to her (as we do now) by the German name for a grandmother, Oma.

tbh I was really grateful for this, as I know my Mum at least would have been a bit 'funny' about her being called gran, or any variant.

my DD calls step-grandparents grandma and grandad, and calls their parents great grandma and great grandad.
both my parents are remarried, and both their partners having living parents

I call my stepdad's mum Grandma.

My step-sibs' kids call all their grandparents on one side Grandma/Grandpa Firstname and on the other side Nan/Grandad Firstname.

Mum is Grandma, she was originally a bit upset, but was allowed as I remember great grandma with nice memories such as the huge selection of jigsaw puzzles and helping her make tea - this was her grandma, also did not really want to share a Granny title.
Dad is grandpa, which is what I called Mum's dad.
Dad's parents died years before I was born.

Mil is granny - established by previous grandchildren.

Fil was grandad - also established by previous GC
Step Mil is Granny S....., liked by step MIL. Just FIL does not like feeling old!!

Step Mil has been in the family for a very long time, The younger BIL & SIL are both in their 20's.

Actually both MIL & Step MIL said they did not need a seat on the top table for the wedding and said the other should have it. Made me very determined that both should be there.

Our DCs always called all gps, whether biological or Step, as Nanny/Grandad . As far as the DCs were concerned, there was no distinction. And, to be fair, neither my Mum nor my Dad ever had a problem with that. Maybe that stems from my DSis and me having step gps as well. We were always taught that they loved us just as much as our 'real' GPs and treated us as equals with their natural GCs and were therefore were entitled to the same treatment from us.

I think the weird thing for us is that it's all very new, so it's not like step mil has been in the family very long. She is also not really granny age and has no other dgc. I think a special version of her name will prob work best and shouldn't upset mil.

I asked my stepmum what she'd like to be called as no grandkids of her own to copy from etc. She asked for a combo with her name like 'nan-pam' dh's stepmum is grandma and our mums are nanny x and nanny y. All dads and stepdads are grandad.

DS calls DH's step mum "Granny Karen" and then his biological grandmothers granny and grandma.

I'd be happy for him to call karen just "Granny" but DH thinks it's easier as he just calls his stepmum Karen.

My mum and dad are Nana and Grandad
Mil and step fil are nana surname and grandad first name
Fil and step mil are grandd first name and nana first name