How can I help this friend???

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Hi all, just looking for a bit of advice. DP and I have a mutual friend, who is going thorough a really bad time, but history makes it hard to know what to believe...
Right... Said friend(A) lived with us for a while, then moved out and got back with a past GF from before we knew him. Dysfunctional doesn't quite cover their relationship, and we often had one of them at the door in tears. I also became friends with one of A's closest friends, and found out that so much (stupid) stuff he had told us were blatant lies. The GF at the time was also a friend and turns out the 3 of us had been told different stories about all sorts.
So... A and dysfunctional GF have been on/off for about 2 years and to be honest DP and I have taken a step back as it was really getting too much having them constantly at each others throats and dragging us into it.
Now today he has called DP asking him to go round, is now saying dysfunctional girl has been cheating for over a year (even though they have been on/off the whole time) and a loafs of other stuff. He's been off work for a few months with stress/depression not sure which and had told DP he has tried to OD twice. Now other than offering him my sofa so he doesnt have to be alone what can I do?
I am struggling to believe everything he is dating after what's happened so far, but also do care for him and dont want him hurting himself...

Sorry that was so long!!

Oh you poor thing what a horrible situation!

Well I only know what you've written so its hard to say anything concrete but don't forget A is a grown up and not your responsibility! Considering he has a history of lying do you really believe he might hurt himself? It sounds like he's a little attention seeking and maybe its time he sorted himself out without your help. Tough love.

Sofa is off limits, even for a bit of a cry. There are hostels he could approach if he finds himself homeless. benefits would pay for it. He will keep crashing from crisis to crisis which would appear to be his pattern. And like leptit said, he sounds very needy. If you cannot trust him, then don't feel you have to fake it.

How old is this attention seeker?

It sounds as if you've already gone beyond the call of duty in this friendship.

I suggest you keep the sofa for yourself and dp to snuggle up on and stay clear of present and future dramas, unless they're on the box.

Have you posted about these friends before, looking for advice for friend A's GF? This all sounds really familiar.

Anyway, tell A that your sofa is unavailable to bullshitters at the moment and try and distance yourself from the drama and lies.

Hi all, thanks for the advice. Nope this is the first time I've posted about them, v sorry that others are in the same situation though.
A is indeed a grown man, he's 31 but never seems it. I honestly don't know if he actually would hurt himself, believe me I'm the first to think he's attention seeking but I also cant bring myself to completely ignite it as what if one time he is really serious
It's a hard situation, he came round tonight as DP had to come home and look after DD while I went to work. He seems in a bad way, I have tried the 'tough love' approach and told him he needs to get a grip and grow up (sounds mean but he has plenty of other friends who will coddle him) but just can't help worrying about him

As you've already been a friend indeed to your friend in need there's nothing wrong with excercising tough love second time round, especially when you know that he's got others around to tell him what he wants to hear dispense uncritical hugs.