I have been with my DH 19 years and we have 2 teenage children. He was married before and she cheated on him and he has always been a little paranoid that i'd do the same. Often making comments about me getting chatted up at work! I'd like to add that I never have cheated or even flirted because i know it would've destroyed him! We're helping arrange an event at the moment and I was just checking his Facebook messages to see if we had any replies to invites and I found that he had a lot of conversations with girls, all around 20 to 30 years his junior. most were just hi, but when he got into conversation with one he starting asking if she was single, where she goes on a night out and if he could come. He stopped me in me tracks when he asked her "does this mean I'd be able to get anything i wanted out of you?" when she said she was off to get drunk! I phoned him to ask what the hell he thought he was doing and he said he was only messing around,if he'd had anything to hide he'd have deleted it! he ending up putting the phone down on me and rejected any other call. It got me thinking about what he'd said about deleting things if he had anything to hide. what he doesn't realise about messages on Facebook is they don't delete they go to archive. sure enough i found a couple more, one a very short conversation, but the other is to someone i know of! She has somewhat of a reputation! Again it's just about where she goes out and that he may go there too, saying he would've treated her better than her ex, asking for her phone no, and asking her to send pics of her dressed in a saucy nurses outfit to his phone! I told him I'd found his deleted message and not to come home because i couldn't bare him near me at the mo and he said that this must be what i wanted all along because I'd been nosey! I don't think he's gone any further than just messaging. I KNOW he hasn't been out with any of these girls because he doesn't go out! All of the message I've read the girls seem to have got uncomfortable and ended the conversation, leaving him saying " I was only joking, we're still friends aren't we!"
I feel like he's cheated on me. If he had found any conversation between me and a man even half as bad as what he has written he would've walked out on me for good! I'm soooo angry I can't think straight. I'm frightened I'm going to jump head first into a wrong decision. Any one had anything like this happen to them? Please help!