is masturbating min twice a week normal way to relieve stress?

[mazza1974]

my dh masturbates a lot sometimes to porn sometimes without - he says it is a way to relieve stress - does your dh is this normal

Hi mazza,
I'm so sorry you are feeling so down and confused.
I have read your posts and you seem to be in emotional turmoil.
You seem to be trying desperately to be sense of it all,
Trying desperately to understand your husbands behaviours.

I have been through something similar although not as extreme and for not as long:
I discovered my ex was having live webcam sex when I was 7.5 months pregnant. We seperated when my dd was 10 weeks.
I don't believe a man or woman using porn or masturbation in a relationship is nessecarily bad. It is no threat to the relationship. And nothing to be jealous of.
However I believe this particular ex to have had a porn addiction which is very different.
My only regret is that I didn't end it sooner - when I was 7.5 months pregnant.

I think you are trying to understand how 'it has come to this'.
In my opinion your husbands 'problem' came about long before you were with him. He is incapable of truly loving you as he does not value himself - he is only using in an attempt to feel better about himself - because he feels worthless. He is using your love in this way to. By not leaving you are enabling his behaviour.
17 years is a long time to be living with this, and hard to come to terms with, I hope you will be ok xx

Bobits,

Thank you for your thread, We have confirmed his addiction is to masturbation and he has been addicted to it all of his life, porn is a symptom of masturbation addiction, we have so much going on in our lives at the moment i truly dont know where to start, I am going to his counselling session with him on Monday and see what they say - in my heart I know I need to get out but I need to do it properly I need to be organised with it and put things in place - i have another thread asking for help with seperation and divroce and some one has put some good tips on there for me so i will get started with those, also i have a thread about my husband being addicted to porn and some one has given me details of WA which I am also going to contact - looks like I am going to be very busy - thanks again I am going to need all the support I can get xxx