Reaching out to an old friend.

[AudreyMonroe]

Never posted here before but i was wondering if you could give me some advice.

4 years ago i stopped speaking to one of my very good friends. She told me and my other friend quite a big lie, which was admitted to by her mother a few months later.

I have not spoken to her since, but lately i have been feeling really guilty about the whole thing.

To make up what she did means that she must have been having some real problems, yet i was so annoyed about it at the time i just stopped answering her calls and we lost touch. Thinking about it now, i should have realised this and been there for her or tried to get her help.

I would really like to write to this friend, not to bring up the past, who was wrong etc. But to really apologise for just walking away from her when i should have tried to help.
Alot of my other friends have heard that she is very lonely nowadays, i just can't bare to think of her having no one.

Do you think writing to her to offer an olive branch would be a good idea?
Anyone else done something similar?

I think it sounds like a nice gesture, yes. I got an email out of the blue from an old friend once, apologising (unnecessarily, I thought, but hey) and catching up. It was nice. We didn't resume a friendship really, as we had moved away from each other geographically, but it was nice to feel there were no hard feelings.

Thanks LeBOF.
Thing is, even if she wanted to tell me to do one, i just need her to know how sorry i am.

What do i say?

My friend found me online and emailed or messaged (can't remember which) to say that she was sorry that we hadn't kept in touch, and that although she didn't think I was likely to hold a grudge, she felt bad about the way she had acted at times. She said that she had grown up a lot, and wanted to let me know that she had appreciated my friendship and looked back on it with fondness. Then she filled me in on her news, and left the door open for me to do likewise. Which I did- it was all very pleasant. And we left it there.

It was a nice thing, I'm glad she got in touch.

Thats a really nice way to clear the air.

It would be easier if i could email her or message her but i can't find her on the internet but i do know where shes lives so it's going to have to be a good old fashioned letter!

I just don't even know how to start with what i want to say.

Bump.