Am I paranoid or just gullible?

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My DP and I are having some problems with our relationship at the moment and it has been like this for a while. Especially since having our son, we seem to be always finding something to disagree about. We are not sleeping together at all now and it only happened a couple of times last year.... He thinks I should stop worrying about it and just be happy but I am really finding it difficult to accept that this is even remotely healthy. I know its hard with babies and the workload and everything but it just does not seem right. To make matters worse, a few weeks ago I found a picture of a young woman on my DP's phone. When I asked who it was, he proceeded to tell me he didn't know it was there. He still maintains he has no idea how it got there!! Am I just paranoid because we don't sleep together anymore, or is there more to this??

Well I guess it is possible that someone else could have taken the picture, if he had been on a night out.

Put it together with the lack of sex, I think it may be worth doing a little more investigating.

Has he always had a low sex drive, or is this a relatively recent thing?

Hes always had a low sex drive but also problems with impotence. This has been going on for the last 5 years or more. But in the last year, we stopped even trying which is depressing the hell out of me. He maintains he loves me and wants to sort things out and states that I have nothing to worry about.

My DP is no idiot he is an IT Consultant so finding it hard to believe he gets pictures downloaded without his knowledge!!!

I'm way out of my depth on this one, but I hope someone comes along soon.

Some sort of counselling (Relate?) is often mentioned on these threads - it may be worth a try to get to the bottom of the problem. A sexless marriage is only ok if both partners are happy with it - it's not fair to just say no.

I hope you manage to sort it out.

I doubt very much whether you are paranoid, your instincts and gut feelings are usually spot on. He's lying about the picture, but then you already know that. I'd start snooping personally...