I'm miserable

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I want out of my marriage but he won't leave and I don't see why our children and myself should move out of our home.
He never does anything around the house, hardly ever takes the children out, drinks every night and becomes snappish and irritable.
He treats the children like his personal slave, make me a cup of tea, tidy my room.
I have seen a solicitor about a divorce but it doesn't seem to be going anywhere.
I spend most nights crying (when he has gone to bed as I don't want him knowing he can reduce me to this) I sleep in my daughters room on a put up bed
The only time I get a break is when I go to my friends overnight once a month to help her with her business accounts.
I am totally exhausted having to deal with the children getting the hump due to him, running the house and dealing with all the things that are usual with the children- homework, afterschool clubs, taking them to their friends house.
I am not the happy person I used to be, I feel like I am turning into well to be honest a miserable, moaning cow.

I'm sorry you are feeling so down.

Why are the legal proceedings not going anywhere? Have you initiated a divorce?

Ask your solicitor about residence rights while the divorce is ongoing.

I have seen a solicitor about a divorce but it doesn't seem to be going anywhere.

There must be a reason for that - what is it?

If you have seen a solicitor they should have recommended mediation, initially to try to come to some agreement about how you will separate and what arrangements will be made for finance and the children.

How long have you been married?
Do you own your home jointly?
What are your finances like?
How old are your children?

I have seen a solicitor about a divorce but it doesn't seem to be going anywhere

Why is this? Did the solicitor advise you that you have grounds to file for divorce citing his unreasonable behaviour and have they prepared an affidavit in support of your petition?

If marital relations have ceased and you are not sharing a bedroom with him, you can petition for divorce while you continue to live under the same roof as your spouse.

If your solicitor does not seem to have much interest in progressing your divorce, put your new found talent for moaning to good use when you ask for an account of what acton they've taken to get your petition underway.

acton is in West London - action is what your solicitor should be taking on your behalf!

I have filled in statement of arrangement for the children, given the solicitor all my income details and outgoings.
I last heard from him at the end of december and nothing since.
I am just going to phone up and moan now.

Somedays I can cope living in the house, other days when he is off on one I feel like bashing my head against a brick wall, it's like living with Jeckyll and Hyde.
We have been sleeping separately for 2 years now, I just don't think it's good for the children living in this situation.
My eldest is 20 and youngest is 8