I appreciate and know that my situation is not in the category of lots of women on this thread who have been left after years of marriage and I humbly apologise to them.
Quick background. I was married for 14 years, husband left me 3 years ago, all very amicable now. Just dipped my toe in the water with dating again very recently. Met a man I really, really, really fancy. He is separated. We flirted for months and months and became really good friends. Eventually had 2 dates, lots of fabulous kissing - nothing else, thank the Lord.
Anyway, since the last date I have detected a distinct cooling off from his end, the endless texts disappeared and it felt like I was beginning to be a bit of a chore. So last night I called him and said that he clearly didn't seem ready for anything - and of course he agreed (I gave him an easy out). He says he is 'very sad' and that 'if he was ready, he would definitely wish to be with me and no one else' but I think that is code for "I've decided that you're not worth taking any further".
I feel like such a TREMENDOUS FOOL. i spent last night lying awake, and having little teary periods and I realise today that I'd invested in him emotionally and I'll MISS HIM. It was nice having someone to text and look forward to seeing again. and the world feels very grey again today.
Bollocks to it! I've asked him not to contact me again, as I need to get over it. Have I done the right thing? Can someone give me some cheering up tips. I feel like crawling into a hole and weeping! In fact, i am weeping. Jesus, I think a life of celibacy beckons.