Me and DH used to be proper sex maniacs. When we first met it would be several times a day, of course it wasn't like that forever, but we were solid four times a week sexers, with about once every two weeks having a mega night of passion. We had short breaks for things like late pregnancy, illness, etc, but that was more or less how we were. We did pretty much everything.
Now we seem to have gone wrong somewhere. I take ages and ages to get warmed up, and if I'm not actually gagging for it when he actually gets inside me then I lose my enthusiasm really quickly. But if I am gagging for it then I don't take long, then I am left with him plodding away and again I get bored. He takes ages to ejaculate, and if he doesn't take ages he apologises, even though I have told him a million times that I prefer it that way - that way it feels like it is because he is aroused, rather than some kind of workout.
I try to give him foreplay, but I seem to have lost the knack, and whereas before we could spend ages teasing each other and just enjoying ourselves, now it kind of feels mechanical. It doesn't help that he keeps saying things like it is the best blowjob he has ever had when I know for a fact that it isn't.
I've totally lost the desire for anything unusual too - the toys haven't come out in months, we haven't done anything like tying each other up, sex outside etc, and in fact the idea just leaves me cold.
I still really really fancy him - I get horny just looking at him. I love cuddling and flirting and even a bit of a grope, but as soon as it looks like there is sex on the cards I just freeze up.
I still masturbate, but not as much as I used to, and it is nearer a quick scratching of an itch than anything.
Help!