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I am having a bit of a relationship wobble, dont know how to handle it tbh.

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mrsnesbit · 20/02/2012 15:09

Together for 19 years, married for 11 years.
Dh is lovely, a fab dad to our ds, loyal to me, kind, good company, lovely.

He did a one off gig on Saturday for charity, did a fab job, has been working hard practicing 2 times a week, for months.

He really really enjoyed it and they have raised a good amount for the charity.

There was a girl who would not leave him alone after his gig. I wasnt really bothered, until she really wouldnt leave him alone!
I put my coat on the back of his chair so had to go up and get it...she said "oh, is this your wife??" Dh said yeah, im just going to....and she just carried on talking his ear off.
I left then as i was driving some friends home.
He said that he could not get away from her.

It has really made me think, how easy it would be for our happy life to end, it has made me think about stuff i have never thought about before. I feel uncomfortable about it.

DH said that it was embarrasing in the end, and he did end up saying to her...i REALLY am going to have to go now...and moved away from her.

You just hear about folk dont you who had no idea that anything was going on. I would be that person.

Dunno, just having awful thoughts, making me sad and not myself. Sad

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nannipigg · 20/02/2012 15:13

I think you feel like this because your DH did nothing to get rid of her sooner. I would be very annoyed and upset. Are you wondering at the back of your mind if he actually liked the attention and that's why he didn't get rid of her sooner?
I think you are doubting your DH and not yourself x

toptramp · 20/02/2012 15:18

She sounds like a typical groupie to me. Nothing to worry about. Your dp didn't tell her to get stuffed sooner as he enjoyed the attention ; nothing more. He didn't go off with her. Most of us enjoy a bit of attention even within a commited relationship; the main thing is that we don't act on it.

FlatCapAndAWhippet · 20/02/2012 15:31

Temptation is part of every day life, sometimes we witness it, sometimes we dont. On this occasion you witnessed it. You said that your husband is loyal, kind and lovely....you're a lucky lady. Smile

BelleEnd · 20/02/2012 15:35

Don't worry! DH had a woman at work who was being "very friendly and welcoming"- He gets on better with women generally so I thought no more about it, was just appreciative that she was being kind- Until I met her. She totally ignored me, and was all over DH. He put up with it for a while, then came over to me and snogged my face off (I do love my DH! :o ) but it made me think that yes, he could have an affair if he wanted to. That was enough to put me on edge for a while. It goes away- Chances are, he's better than that. :)

nannipigg · 20/02/2012 15:42

I wasn't suggesting that he was going to have an affair or anything, but simply that it may be running through your head and that you may be feeling a bit insecure about the whole thing x
I certainly would but I have a reason to....

FetchezLaVache · 20/02/2012 15:48

Maybe your DH is the polite, unassuming kind who just finds it hard to tell people to bugger off, esp if all she was doing was chatting?

mrsnesbit · 20/02/2012 15:51

yeah i am a lucky lady. Smile

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