This is a bit of a silly question.

[TwllBach]

I'm sure this is a silly question but I'm going to ask it anyway.

Is a man not ejaculating as a result of sex normal? It's never happened before, it's the first time we've had sex in a fortnight (normal for us) and I don't think he masturbates. He initiated the sex and seemed to enjoy it, but he couldn't 'finish'

It's normal, yes? And there's a first time for everything, right?

Well I suppose if it's never happened before then it isn't "normal" for him. But there may be all sorts of reasons. For example if he was a bit tired, or there's a lot on his mind, drinking.

Also, has he started any new medication lately? I know that blood pressure and cold remedies can often have an effect.

No medication, he is a heavy drinker but has always been and it's never affected it before. I suppose it could have been that it was tired, but we'd both just slept for eight hours ish. Maybe I'm a bit paranoid. It's not a big deal, I didn't mind, although I did wonder if I was looking particularly fat this morning!

Disclaimer: I am overweight, but he has never once called me fat and has always told me I'm beautiful and is sincere, it's just my personal feelings.

If my ex was very tired or had been drinking particularly if he had drunk wine rather than lager he couldn't ejaculate didn't matter who initiated it, this happened when he hit his forties, didn't effect him when he was younger, HTH

Ah your last post reminded me it could also happen if we had just both woke up and was having early morning sex.

these things happen, unless it becomes a regular occurrence I wouldn't make an issue of it.

However, in two posts you've mentioned that he's a heavy drinker, and that you have low self-esteem. That can be a pretty harmful combination. How do you feel about your relationship generally?

Hotdamn we have a very good relationship, I know it sounds like we don't I've always had low self esteem, even as a child, and he has always liked a drink. He doesn't get drunk, but he more often than not has a drink, IYSWIM. I'm not saying it isn't an issue for me because I grew up in a teetotal household and I'm pretty much the same and I worry about future health implications and especially future fertility problems, but we do talk openly about it and we don't particularly argue about it.

It sounds so so silly and like I'm over thinking it. He made some throw away comment about my perfume being my signature smell and him always associating Chanel with me, and then blushed when I pointed out that I never wear anything but a different type of perfume, that he buys me every Christmas and birthday. And then this.. But I am just being paranoid.

Did he orgasm without ejaculating? Or did he just not orgasm at all? There is a difference....

No he didn't orgasm. It started off fine and then it just got a bit awkward you know when it just goes on that bit too long and he clearly wasn't really enjoying it, trying a bit too hard. I didn't let on, continued to make encouraging noises etc but in the end he just sort of rolled off, said "sorry Twll," and kissed me on the forehead before wandering off to the shower.

Do you think it's an awkward thing to bring up? It'd have to wait till after he gets back from work now. I'm sure it's normal, it's not like women orgasm every time do they?

I think an occasional occurence of willy wilt is perfectly normal

Perhaps he thought he was in the mood, but simply wasn't, it can happen

Tbh though, heavy drinking can manifest itself in sexual dysfunction, so I would keep an eye on that side of things and if it happens again, maybe a serious talk about how much he is drinking with his GP would be in order

Don't bring it up. It happens. It will NOT help to bring it up after its a one off. If it happens again, maybe ask, but other than that, trust me, he will not want to have that conversation with you.

Willy wilt

You're right. Poor DP