Would/Could you forgive an affair?

[ToxicToria]

After having a conversation with some colleagues I am wondering what everyone else opinions are?

Have you ever forgiven an affair? How did you move on?

Are there any situations where an affair is acceptable? Or could you ever turn a blind eye if your DH was cheating?

So would you feel differently if it was an emotional affair rather than an actual affair with sex involved@ For example, if your DH was having an internet relationship with someone in another country?

No, I'd never let it go and needle him forever about it. I'd have to go if that happened.

I can't say forgiven, but I have definitely changed the contract. That of course is the contract he broke first.

I looked long and hard at the person he is rather than the person I assumed he was, looked long and hard at how I went along with/passively shrank from/felt protective of his quirks,

and changed. He threw away a lot when he decided he was entitled to doing whatever he wanted. But it is consequences. I didn't drop my respect of him, he threw it away. I now don't go along with his self-absorbtion and defenses, but he took the scales off my eyes. He doesn't like my new emotional independence, but he changed the dynamics.

I choose to be with him having added up the pros and cons, but my heart can never be broken the way it has been. You can only lose your innocence once. That is so sad, but it is my new reality. You cannot wish this stuff (infidelity, adultery, betryal, selfishness) away. From either side.