should i carry on pretending i am in a relationship ??

[Ineedalife]

Ok v long story, have been with Dp for 20+ years and have had this problem on and off for the last 10 or so.

Dp and i get on alright most of the time we share house work and cooking in fact we are quite a good team. I do and have done most of the child care but have only worked part time since we had Dd3.

So you think sound quite good, in some ways its ok but there is a total lack of physical contact, it has got worse lately. Theres nothing physical or emotional at all.

I have told Dp on many occasions that i need more from him and he always says he doesnt mean to be like this. I have often tried to instigate physical contact but he pushes me away.

I am just totally fed up with it now and cant see me living like this for another 20 years. So wibu to say to him that i cant pretend to be in a relationship with him anymore and that we need to decide once and for all what we are going to do.

I have PMd you

Did anything happen 10 years ago to cause him to withdraw from you in this way? Would he consider couples counselling? Is he as unhappy as you are? You have to talk it through with him properly, perhaps with a mediator, and decide what you are going to do. Continuing like this, in a non-relationship isn't worth the stress.