Night babe

[xmyboys]

Written by DP in text message to female friend.
Doesn't call me babe :(

Oh dear, I'm sorry, hope you're ok.

What does he call you? Does he have the nauseating habit of calling other women 'babe'?

Did the message say anything else or was it a brief final text to a series of texts that were exchanged between your dp and 'babe'?

Is there anything else in his behaviour that makes you think he might be cheating/thinking of cheating?

To find the text you must have thought something was going on. :(
Sorry that you found it.

Have you spoke to him?

Some men seem to have the habit of calling all women they are friendly with 'babe' in the same way they call men 'mate'. A guy I worked with used to do this, and it meant absolutely nothing. FWIW, I never heard him call his partner 'babe' even though they seemed fine an happy together!

Babe's not really an indication of anything going on. It's a fairly casual expression, surely?

I loathe being called Babe.

Doesnt necessarily mean anything by itself. I have a female friend (who lives halfway round the world) that I call "hun" and I don't call my DP that. She's someone that was there for me a few years ago when I was going through divorce and isnt someone that I would have any kind of romantic relationship with

You know I don't think he is having an affair. Physical at least but won't rule out emotional!
They have been friends for a few years now and do hang out a bit, as part of s social sporting group he is involved in.
They do talk and text more than we do.
Our relationship sucks at the moment and has been really rocky for about 18 mths. (no sex in this long-that's a whole other thread)
I'm just sad it's so dead and I feel so alone.
It's all too complicated with children, finances and business to change it at the moment.

Sorry meant to add he doesn't call anyone else babe.

So just had screaming match with DP.
We got a huge tax bill last month. Money we didn't have.
I had to get a loan to cover mine, he said he was too busy to sort it out and now hits the roof when tax notice is sent from hmrc.
Outgoings each month are high, not excessive living just mortgage x 2 and living. He just thinks it's me spending too much.
So money problems don't help but I am lying here and don't want it to go on but I can't just leave. I have no where to go, family overseas. I don't have any money.
I am not entitled to any benefits due to the visa I am on.
Life sucks right now.

Sounds like you do need to bite the bullet and end it. Are you working or studying over here? If you are studying maybe the college/uni can help you with accommodation.