So what do you do if you realise its the end?

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Dont have any money really so i suppose i will move myself and the kids back to my parents home.
Can anyone advise me please?

Are you married? Do you co-own or rent a property?

Is there a specific reason why you want out of the relationship or is it an accumulation of negativity that's ground you down?

He looks at me with hatred
18 years and it has become friends and now it seems not even that.
I am very depressed ,the house is joint mortgage but i hate it here so i will move out.
I feel we have lost all respect for each other and we dont 'know' each other either anymore

Definitely gone past the point of no return?

Do you consider that your relationship is unsalvageable or would it be worth booking a few sessions with Relate or similar, even if only to help bring your union to an end on an amicable basis?

Before you make any life-changing decisions, I would suggest that you gather information as to what you may be entitled to and check out housing options near your dps, etc.

Start by making an appointment with a solicitor who specialises in divorce and family law and who offers a half an hour free initial consultation so that you'll know where you stand in law if you decide to leave the marital home - pre-supposing of course that you are married.

How old are your dc? Will a move disrupt their schooling at a crucial time? How will they feel about leaving what may be the only home they've known plus possibly their friends etc?

If you are feeling depressed it may be that your situation seems worse than it actually is. Have you considered asking your GP for a short course of anti-d's to lift your spirits and help you through what will most probably be a stressful time ahead.