I have name changed for this as it may out me and plus if i post in here it will disappear! This may be long so please bare with me.
My friend who tbh i havent known a long time (5 months).
We have become close friends over the last 5 months and keep in contact daily. I met her at college.
She found out she was pregnant and sadly lost baby at 7 weeks, when she told her boyfriend he wasnt interested and left the house as usual for work leaving her in crippling pain. She had to make her OWN way to the hospital to get checked out. When he finished work that day, didnt check on her or ask about her, he went to the pub - a daily routine.
In December she found out she was pregnant again and is currently 17 weeks gone. Her boyfriend is a cnut to put it bluntly.
He drinks daily, getting pissed every other day, coming home steaming and tearing chunks out of her for anything he decides.
He treats her like shit, absolute shit. He told her last week that he didnt love her, he hates her and that he was seeing someone else. BUT the next day he acts like nothing has happened and is nice as pie with her. She thinks he is seeing someone else as she decided to catch him out and walked into the pub where he was cosying up with the barmaid at the end of the bar, she walked in, said to both of them, 'this is nice isnt it?' and walked back out.
Last night she text me about something and we exchanged a few texts about cleaning up, they have a puppy and hes not yet fully house trained so she went home yesterday the dog had poo'd, she cleaned it up and put extra mats down etc etc he didnt believe her and said that she hadnt cleaned it all up - said he found dried up dog poo in the house.Which she said was a lie because she cleaned up - i was there and i made the cuppas and she sorted out the dog.
She text me this morning asking me to call round if i wasnt busy. Text ws rather short so i knew something was up. I went round 20 mins later to her in tears, he started again last night, left the house and hasnt been home since. He text her at 3am saying
'i hope you fucking die, your nothing but a tramp'
This is suppose to be the father of her unborn baby, he doesnt give a stuff about that baby.
She said because of the situation she hates the baby before he/she is even born. I reassured her and cuddled her and told her that its not the baby's fault that its dad is a knob. Shes scared of been on her own and said she wont be able to cope. I told her that she has a support network around her, she gets on with her mother in ways but other times she doesnt, her mum drinks too.
She had 2 premature babies before at 30 weeks and 32 weeks. i feel so sorry for her that shes going through this in pregnancy.
I have told her that if she does go into labour early and if he isnt about or is drunk she can ring me and i will be there for her, if that means delivering baby then i will do that for her. She was 20 mins in labour with her last 2 so probably wont have time to get to hospital sad
What can i say to her to make her feel better, make her realise that life as a single mum isnt all bad, im married with 2 DC and cant comprehend how life as a single mum is as iv never been in that situation.
All i want to do is just help her realise that she is not alone, which right now, this is how she feels?
Also i think shes scared of him but makes out she isnt.
He beat her up in July which resulted in a court case, and yet she took him back. Her excuse is
'i love him'
Which i can understand!
Thank you for reading if got this far.