Remarrying: how soon is too soon??

[Taghain]

A good female friend of mine broke up with her boyfriend of 15 years, back at the end of 2009. She has no children. She had a brief fling, then met a man via the internet whom she now plans to marry in summer. He was just separated then, and divorced in 2010, but he has children with his exwife.

The chap dumped my friend a few months into the relationship, at which time she told me that he was controlling & his behaviour matched that of a "loser" type, but of course they got back together after a couple of months. He does seem to take care of his kids a reasonable amount, so he can't be that bad.

I'm still concerned that my friend is marrying him too soon after their separations....what does the hive think?

He does seem to take care of his kids a reasonable amount, so he can't be that bad.

I wouldnt say that was any indication of him being a good husband though. At all.

I don't think there's a right amount of time as such, but if he was controlling that early on into their relationship it certainly doesn't bode well.

With no reference to the other points made, I would have thought that two years was more then enough time.

I don't know about too soon from their separations, but how long have they been together?

I think she could be making a mistake if he's controlling etc - he's probably in the nice & rush-her-off-her-feet phase. Personally I wouldn't be worried so much about whether it's rebound - it's the controlling stuff that's the concern.

i suppose it all depends on the circumstances...in your friends case 2 years is fine...her choice as an adult.

an ex-BF's mum married his dad's brother 6 weeks after his dad DIED of a brain tumour now THAT'S the definition of quick off the mark!! (he told me once that his dad was 2 months between diagnosis and death too...) it seems unfathomable to me but TBH i would never even date my BILs never mind marry one of them