Will spare you the grindinlgy dull details but it is now crystal clear that DH and I loathe one another to the point of nausea and have a shell of a marriage but ..... two fantastic sons whom we both adore and would dol anything for. DH is a excellent husband, and I cannot offer one iota of criticism on that score and sons adore him. I strongly believe that boys need a father figure around, preferably their own.
But we cannot be civil to one another and can barely look at each other. Have tried to talk, be more understaning etc bloody etc but really hate him. And although we try not to fight in front of kids, it's getting ridiculous.
I reckon I could hang on in there for sake of kids but would they cotton on sooner or later? Is it damaging to get out and be impoverished single mother now (kids only 2.6 and 3months - no idea how that one was conceived) or hang in there and try and tolerate tedious husband and sham of marriage so kids can have stability?
Anyone got any advice?