Shagbook?

[MairyHinge]

Oh has given his old iPhone to our son,and we were playing about with it, he wanted to see if his emails could be on there so we opened the inbox and there's a email saying you have a private message from on Shagbook,
I feel sick.
* oh name and woman's name.
Can this be done by accident or has he been actively looking?

Yeah it sounds like he just signed up out of curiosity.

Hope you can sort it all out by talking to him. You're off to a good start by being relatively calm and rational.

Good luck.

Shagbook is an adult no string sex dating site. It has sod all to do with FB.

shagbook.com/uk/login.php

You have to have logged on I imagine and registered to get texts or emails from them.

I am sorry but I think it would be very naive to think this is just pure spam out of the blue. However much it would be nice to think that.

Sorry here is the link
shagbook.com/uk/login.php

You can send & read emails for free - I know this as I joined to try to catch out my DH know these things

And I sent & received messages & didn't pay a penny

He is registered , she knows that

Afaik karma it's free for women but men have to upgrade to full membership and therefore pay a subscription fee in order to send messages or read received messages.

It's to encourage women to join.

What "old wounds" would you be opening up, Mairy? Has something with a flavour of infidelity happened before?

I have to say, what does it say about a person that they would even contemplate meeting up with someone via a site called "shagbook" :( eughhh... yucky... :(

It seems to me that this is a case of revisiting the site of a sore that hasn't healed rather than 'opening old wounds up'.

You say he 'works long hours and then is at home'. Dalliances that are arranged through sleazy internet sites rarely take the form of a hot date on a Friday/Saturday or any other night.

IMO you should have listened to those who were telling you he was up to something when he was accusing you of having an affair this time last year.

It could be that he had an itch that he didn't go so far as scratching, but in the absence of honesty from both sides there can be no trust in your relationship and any hurts won't heal easily.

It does not look good Op - is he protective of his laptop/phone etc? Has he been distant/critical?

Many people conduct affairs during lunchtimes and in the afternoons after booking a half day off work.

I've joined umpteen of these to have a good look round and have thus far managed to avoid cheating on my husband. He's just nosy. Stop panicking.

But why RobinSure? Why join?
He's come home and he's all over me,think he knows I've seen the email. I'm biding my time. The thought that whilst he's nipped out for petrol he's had a shag........ugh.
Thing is,he's really, really not the sort! At all. Ever.

They never are the sort :(

Can you not broach by saying you DS saw this (or nearly did, I don't know) and you are concered about the impact on him. Regardless of what he did, even if he browsed, he should be more careful when passing stuff about shagbook to DS

I suggest you have a browse through this thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1312232-How-many-of-the-men-in-your-life-have-used-prostitutes-compared-with-how-many-who-havent-Id-like-to-ask-for-help-or-perspectives-on-this

It seems that an informative post on p26 from an allegedly happy hooker who resurrected the thread last night has been deleted, but there are numerous other responses which serve to show that men who use the services of workers employed in the oldest profession cannot be distinguished at a glance from those who don't.

My ex was recently blackmailed on that site and Its ruined us and what was left of my paternal family

She would have gotten all the lies under the sun and how it was her fault he went on there sadlt

I've had similar but the blackmailer sent it to me my dad and sister .. my life's destroyed.it was everything u can imagine In those photoes

This post is from 2012

And ? Which means people are still getting catfished etc blackmailed .. yes they shouldn't have signed up but it happens .. a little warning goes a long way you know