Advice please!! (trivial but still need help)

[ThoseArentSpiritFingers]

what do you say to someone who you have met a few times, got on well with, was chemistry with but you were in a relationship at te time, but are now single and want something to happen?

I'm thinking along the lines of a conversation starter that isnt as blah as 'hey how are you?' but can't really talk about the last time insaw him because t was a night out a few weeks ago, so can't really say 'you still hungover..'

I don't see him that often as e is a friend of a friend, but I'm pretty sure I didn't make up the chemistry... Arghh I've been away from this for too long, don't know how to make the move anymore!!

Is there any magic conversation starter that Is casual yet let's him know I'm interested...? Help please! (btw the conversation would happen in Facebook chat... Don't judge me, it's the only way to make contact...)

how about ' Had any good nights out lately'?

What are you doing? Or Wuu2 depending on how young you are then maybe something like So when are we gonna meet up then thats always my line might be a bit slutty forward but I always think cheeky

I don't use the FuckBollocks FB site but presumably you can pick up on something from their latest update - i.e if they say they're 'off skiing' you could add a message saying 'on the piste again?' or somesuch- to re-introduce yourself?

What have his last couple of updates referred to?

To my mind, barging in and suggesting a meeting on a public site would be more than a tad slutty desperate, plus there's always the possibility that he's been 'spoken for' so to speak since you last saw him.

Izzy that's why I don't want to suggest drinks or anything, and ideally I'd like to prompt him to make the first move if he is free to date, but just lay the groundwork of letting him know that I want him to ask me out.

Has it always been this complicated!?

He doesn't really put many status's just comments on friends Walls and putting up photos from nights out etc so nothing really I could comment on. I was planning a private message, so I suppose whatever I say the fact that I messages him should be enough of a hint that I'm interested...?

You say you last saw him 'a few weeks ago'? If so, it would seem that you've have only just come out of a relationship and have become 'single' again.

Can't you simply send him a message or whatever it is people do on FB to the effect that 'any chance you'll be going to x (i.e the place you last saw him) again in the near future?' and leave it at that.

If he responds with 'no plans to do so' or words to that effect, you can reply 'shame - was hoping I might see you again next time I go there'' and just take it from there.

But do be careful as all this 'laying groundwork' in the hope that he'll take the hint and ask you out may render you in danger of overegging the cake with too many hints of a come hither nature.

Does your mutual friend know which haunts he inhabits on a regular basis? It would be more natural to go to somewhere he's likely to be and ascertain whether there is a chemical attraction that owes nothing to the bunsen burner of alcohol rather than advertising your availability on a public site.

Last night I had a few drinks for Dutch courage, he came online I said hey and when he replied saying hey I replied 'give me a text on 07*, it's far easier than talking on here' and it worked! Within a few minutes he sent me a text and had a wee chat, I made sure to mention he knew I was bow single...

Apparently being forward works haha!