Bloody 'D'H

[Horsemad]

He is decorating, under duress because we have a French student coming to visit next week and the kitchen & bathroom are in a state 'cause he never does the necessary DIY.

I went out yesterday afternoon in town & then on to do the w/e food shop, came back after a few hours to find the house in complete disarray. He'd left all the mess - plaster dust etc all over the kitchen surfaces, no dust sheets used, DIY equipment everywhere, floor not swept - small kitchen no room to move.

Words were exchanged and I tidied the mess up 'cause he refused and I just couldn't stand the dust being traipsed through the house.

When he got up this morning, I told him it was all clean and if he couldn't leave it the same way after he'd finished then to get someone in to do the job 'cause I wouldn't be expecting to clean up after a workman like I'd had to clean up after him.

So, he's set to, done the DIY for today then buggered off to his mother's for his Sunday dinner! Leaving me to cook dinner here for me and the kids. Nice.

Can't you do any DIY or decorating yourself then?

Of course I can!! But I don't see why I should when he does no housework/cooking. Blimey, if I do that as well then I'll be doing everything and surely that's not right? Or is it????????????????

Sorry, but apart of doing DIY for you during the day he buggered off and a result you don't have to cook for him? Woman, what are you complaining about?

Why do you put up with you doing all the housework and the cooking, which are daily tasks compared with presumably infrequent tasks like DIY?

Wouldn't it be fairer and more enjoyable if you did all these tasks together?
Also, as the kitchen's a mess, why didn't your PILs offer dinner to all of you?

horsemad, your H has acted like an arsehole

don't let anyone try and tell you different

I don't get the problem.

But my dh doesn't do DIY as he's crap at it and I like doing it. He'd pay someone though if I couldn't be bothered to do it myself.

I wouldn't mind doing the housework IF he did the decorating when it was needed. He is a lazy sod and of that there is no doubt. Sometimes I just despair when he can't do things with good grace.

Me and the kids are having chinese so my evening will be good!

What AF said - with bells on.

As AF has decreed, your h has behaved like an arsehole and, from what you've said, it also sounds as if he's a lazy twat at the best of times.

I suspect you have only yourself to blame for his general uselessness around the house as you failed to get the bit between his teeth train him up to an acceptable standard.

Why not withdraw cooking and laundry services stop mucking out his stable and let him fend for himself put him out pasture?

Does your MIL always have extra Sunday dinners on tap? If so, could you please pm me her address?

Izzy you are right, I have been lax training him, but I've had enough and have told him I've effectively 'checked out' of this marriage until he pulls his socks up.