For *Likeatonofbricks* - how's it going?

[pollyblue]

I suddenly remembered your recent thread about the crush you have, and what you might do about it - have things moved on at all? Anything positive to report? Hope there is

TBH though, if I received a Valentines card I wouldn't be going around asking anyone (let alone other women!) "is it from you?!" Recipient probably has no idea.

True. Although I liked someone, I might ask if the card I got was from them.

if

From what I remember of OPs first post, her crush-in-question had several admirers (if I'm remembering correctly) so might genuinely have no idea who the card is from, if she hasn't picked up any vibe from OP.

yes, I'm afraid nothing so far! I haven't been as hopeful as you optimistic lot , so not surprised...though I'm still hoping all's not lost. I did chicken out of writing a message in the card, something on the lines of whether she's open-minded, which was possibly a mistake - in the end just put a kiss, but I was still worried about losing all contact with her if she disliked it.
One thing about her though, she is intelligent and sharp. If it's not 100% obvious to her that the card is from me, I'm pretty sure I'm one of the possibles. She knows I like her and I behaved a bit flirty in our last two meetings. The kiss in the card came out quite feeble - it's obviously not by a man's hand. Ok, she might think it could be a man, but the whole femininity of the card as well should suggest otherwise. Yes, polly i know of two admirers, one of whom was recently rejected, but i think she'd ask him if this was his card. I hope he didn't say Yes!!! The old admirer wouldn't send this type of card.
I think she might well have guessed, or at least considered that it was mine, but either she doesn't want to encourage it (easier to ignore than say anything), or she's thinking of how to respond carefully. She has been busy this week with relatives staying at hers, also she is a type of person who likes to consider things (not impulsive), she's not the type to quickly respond to texts even, so I will wait till next week. If there is nothing, I will have to wait till March when I know we'll be in contact properly for a bit, and i will have to see how she is. I don't have the balls nerve to be direct now.
Gay40 has a point - if she liked me she'd found a way to ask, so if she has no idea, then she's not thinking of me, SaltRS. The point of the card was to check this. She could just ask 'have you sent me anything' without being direct, and if I didn't know what she was talking about she'd have her answer.

Bugger.

I was rather hoping I'd have a romantic interlude to read.

sorry G40! but you never know still...as I say she's not an impulsive type, always thinks before she leaps (I'm much more emotion-driven). if she was, I'd have given up by now!

not sure she's particularly romantic either - at least it needs to be awakened in her.

Quite.

Oh bugger indeed - she's starting to sound a bit like (and I really hope she's not) the woman I had a crush on, who just ignored - it's grim not knowing what they are thinking. Though to be fair, the woman I had a crush on had asked me (in a friendly fashion) if I fancied going for a drink a couple of times - your crush (crushee?!) hasn't done that.

OP, if you don't hear from her, what's the plan? Will you feel brave enough to ask her next month when you see her if she got your card?

polly, first of all, being the type she is, she might ask something non-direct a bit later, even in a couple of weeks. When I do see her in March (which will be a few meetings over a week or even more, we'll be involved in the same situation as when we met in autumn - it would provide mutual things to do) I will have more oppotunity to sense the mood and see how she is, is she slightly flirty as she was a few times before. After that I might go for 'nothing to lose' if there is any vibe and will be direct, not just about the card but generally. I'm being careful now exactly because I don't want to lose that (last )opportunity of proplonged contact. If I sense she's more stand-offish than before, I will have to just back off completely.
The thing is, for all we know, she might have got involved with someone else - maybe even that man who she sort of rejected back then (but I think they snogged as she was telling him that they should stop), might have changed her mind. I can't find out until I see her again regularly.

Someone somewhere is going to have to make a move.

Send her another card , hinting that she should wear something, you suggest, if she would like an exciting time in the near future, maybe a broach or ribbon,IYSWIM Then if she turns up wearing the item. RESULT !! Up to you then to keep us informed.

It's MARCH!!!

Anything exciting happened yet?

I'll be spending time with her for the second half of March neraly on daily basis (though nothing too intense). I was hoping Gay40 would relate that as I just wrote this to her in pm. No reply to the v-card but she hasn't cancelled the March event so even if she guessed it hasn't put her off! it will all become clear then. First of all I'll find out whether she's seeing anyone. If nothing is clear after that, I'll have to drop it, as it's my last proper chance of spending some time with her.