We are getting married!

[aurynne]

Trying to break the trend of sad threads on the Relationships topic, I am announcing that... my DP and I are getting married!

On Chinese New Year, exactly 3 years after we started going out together, he prepared me a traditional Chinese dinner of hot pot, and even bought a Chinese liquor to go with it, and before going to bed he went on his knee and asked me THE question. And I said yes! :)))

I actually almost spoiled his surprise by moaning about our relationship not moving on the day before :P

I know it's hardly a planetary event, but it is for me! I never thought I would get married, not because I believe marriage is useless, but precisely the contrary: after many short-lived relationships in which I was always the one to call the shots, I never believed I would find anyone I could commit to. However, my DP (I still have to get used to call him a "fiance") is the kind of man I never thought existed. He is a good man, forgiving, he has no malice, he holds no grudges, even to people who treated him badly in the past. He is generous, affectionate, sweet, intelligent and hard-working (and has broken his cycle of workaholism because he realized it was important to me). He loves me unconditionally, is honest, his family clearly adore him and he them. He is great in bed, he is an amazing cook, and lo and behold... my mum loves him! (this last is unprecedented with any of my or my sister's boyfriends). I really couldn't let him get away!

And most important of all, he is the only person in the World I see myself growing old with.

So if everything goes as planned, in January next year we will be having a very simple beach wedding (Summer in New Zealand) with just close family and friends, and a bbq afterwards, in the most authentic Kiwi style. I would have married him next week with just two friends as witnesses and a marriage celebrant, but my family and friends from Spain surprised me by insisting in coming, so we decided to delay the ceremony :).

So, for me it is a new career (currently re-training as a midwife) and a husband-to-be in 2012. Definitely much more promising than last year, when we lived in constant fear of earthquakes in Christchurch.

And in my very best MN style, I can only finish this post with a big HUGS TO ALL!!!

A Very Happy Spaniard

Dp got me an anniversary card for six years together last October and had written at the bottom, Wife card next year . We get married in thirteen weeks !

Cogratulations OP! It is lovely to have a happy thread.

My OH proposed on Xmas night. It was late and we were on the sofa together watching Michael McIntyre. He suddenly turned the TV off, took my hand, looked into my eyes and said 'will you marry me'? I was so surprised!

I said yes, I was over the moon! But, like another poster has said, i wondered what would happen in the cold light of day. When he woke the next morning he pulled me to him and said 'Morning, future Mrs X' with a big soppy grin on his face. Ahhhh!

Wedding is in the spring

Congratulations!

I suddenly realised that not only did I want to marry DH but that he wouldn't ask me because I'd said I never wanted to get married again. Struck by urgency I barely got a nights sleep then went to buy a ring to propose with. We had a lovely day with his kids but no sooner than they were in bed I got off the sofa, went down on one knee and proposed. I could barely get the words out and couldn't stand up afterwards. I did it all really badly and with no thought or romance but he loved it.

As it happens he was planning to propose eventually and as I'd said I always wanted to take a carriage ride through Central Park he was going to do it then and try to sweep me away with romance. So we went to New York for our honeymoon and after taking me to Tiffany's to buy me a necklace, he proposed in the carriage and put the necklace round my neck.

So in the end I got a rather special engagement story as I imagine it's pretty rare to be proposed to by your husband

Enhorabuena aurynne! It is refreshing to read a nice and happy story on this board and it sounds like your DH-to-be is a true gem.

I felt exactly the same as you when my DH "popped the question" although I knew he was going to do it (we had picked the ring together) but wasn't sure as to how it was going to unfold...we were travelling around Argentina, where I'm from, and he booked a table at this lovely restaurant in Calafate, Patagonia on my birthday. After a decadent meal (or so it seemed to us after weeks of 'slumming it' in campsites and eating mainly barbecued meats and pasta dishes) and as dessert was being served, he went down on one knee and in front of all the staff and fellow diners asked me to marry him...I never thought I would turn into an overexcited, giggly, emotional mess but I sure did! He shed a tear too (and that's even more memorable as he is not the crying sort).

Enjoy this great time with your new fiancé and career and all the best for the future!

Thank you so much for all your messages and for sharing your lovely stories :). I love your unconventional proposal, WaitingForMe! I actually had been thinking of proposing myself too, but he has been married before, and I wanted him to be the one to decide whether he was ready for another go.

¡Gracias, MCT76! Argentina, what a lovely place for a proposal :)

aw - my DH very nearly proposed over gchat while I was at work and he was thousands of miles away visiting family. We'd been discussing moving in together and I said "but I thought you didn't believe in pre-marital cohabitation?". He said "well, of course there would be conditions" or something along those lines and then changed the subject. I was racking my brains to try to think if it could have meant anything other than we'd have to be married...

About 2 weeks later, he was home, he'd gone off for a walk and I went out to catch up with him, out in a sort of meadowy place on one of the first warm days of spring, and he said "so um, if we are going to move in together, we'd have to be married"...and I said "are you asking me to marry you". He looked at his feet, then looked at me and said "yes". I kissed him and thought that said it all but he maintains I kept him waiting for an hour and he had to remind me to answer :D Not the most romantic but totally unexpected (well, unexpected bar the gchat - he'd told me a few months earlier that marriage was not on the card for him for a long time!)

Congratulations aurynne - enjoy your engagement!