Someone help me with my marriage please!!!

[shorty80]

hey i started up another con but heres the deal , hubby wanted me and the kids out so we left he told me to go back to my moms, well we eneded up doing that he e mailed my mom telling her that he cant be married to me well i e mailed him yesterday and he said that he was undecided on whether he still wants to be married well on wed is our 5 yr anniversary im in GA hes in OR, we have a 17 month old and a 3 yr old and my 3 yr old is torn to pieces crying for daddy well my friend e mailed him yesterday and asked whats the deal he told me in the e mail that he wants his space etc well today he e mailed her and said that he gonna get a divorce and this n that i dunno what to do, he said he cant take the fighting anymore and that its been gojng on for 2 1/2 yes since he got home from iraq, and his mom is im sure brainwashing him, how can i get him back so we can have our family back??? please help me on this one

Sorry you are going through such an awful time with your husband. I really don't think there's anything you can do to persuade him back, if that's not what he wants. You could see if he would be willing to go to any couples counselling to try and work through this, but doesn't sound like he really would be. You need to look after yourself and your kids right now, make sure you are OK financially, see an attorney (I'm assuing you are in the US???).

shorty80, I'm so sorry that you are having such an awful time. Unfortunately, nothing we or you can do is going to make your husband stay with you and the children if he doesn't want to. You must seek legal advice quickly to ensure that he doesn't take control of this process and move so quickly that you haven't got time to get your act together.

Aside from the other advice you have been given, i'd also suggest not letting friends and relatives get involved in this. Keep the emailing between you and him, or it will get v confusing, over he said and she said and they said, etc

Why did you move out? I don't understand that. It's your home too and generally, whoever has the kids gets the house. He is being very unreasonable. He could be depressed because of his time in Iraq, my brother served in the army and suffered from Post-traumatic stress syndrome. But it doesn't give him the right to call all the shots.

Get your solicitors involved. If you do split up you must make sure that you and the kids do not suffer financially. You need to take some control back.

agree with all the others advice
also you are worth alot more than being with someone who doesnt want to stay in a relationship with you
dont know you but you deserve more than that
kick him to the kerb girl
but make sure you screw the money out of his arse
keep ya chin up
xxx

what's with all the e-mailing. Have you tried talking to him.

Other than that agree with the other posters.

as far as me leaving its his parents house that we were staying at, all this is taking a toll on me and the kids, and i want him back i didnt say i do for nothing marriage is a life long commitment and be me giving up will let him get his way and if he does go through with the divorce like he says he is then im gonna contest it and drag him through and cost him thousands

but the problem with costing him thousands is that you will cost yourself thousands too - you can only do this if 1 you get legal aid 2 you recover no financial settlement to pay your legal aid back from and 3 he does not get legal aid. a solicitor can't get you your husband back, anyway