How do you revitalise a flagging friendship?

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I used to be close to a friend and we would phone each other every night. We had a row last year as our dds were fighting and she felt I didn't handle it well. I guess we said some hurtfull things. We do still see each other outside playgroup but we hardly phone each other any more and we said we wouldn't meet up with the kids so we don''t hang out much anymore.
I guess I still feel annoyed about some of the things that were said but I don't want to bring it up now. I do feel like there is a wedge between us now. Is it possible to revitalise a flagging friendship if one or both parties feel a bit hurt? If so how because I do treally like her? Also we are in different places right now; I have a new baby, she has a new job. My mum also died about 3 months before the row and I kind of feel sad that we had the row when I needed my close friends around me. I don't want to be more specific.

tbh if you are phoning one person every night it's a bit much. You need to cultivate other friendships. Any friendship will come under strain and become unhealthy if it is that intense.

hmm, it's a toughie. I also had a bit of a fall out with a close friend of mine recently. There's definitely a bit of a wedge with us but we are still speaking and I'm just trying to be normal. If you really value the friendship - is it worth a phone call? You could let her know that you are calling because her friendship means a lot and you are upset to have lost that. Ask if you can work through it. Don't bring the argument up though, and avoid pointing fingers. I guess if you want the friendship to work, you have to forgive and forget, even if those things hurt. That's what being a friend is. It's not all plain sailing, sometimes you irritate each other and when you are particularly close, it's easy to fall out. I have to say though, kids fall out and make up a million times a day. I try and stay out of any fights my daugher has with my friends daughter. Plus, even though you are in different places, you were friends so you already had common ground. Good luck!

And I'd agree with brass. Try not to be in each others pockets so much. That's when small irritations intensify! x