How do you tell if you're depressed because you're not happy in a marriage

[devonsmummy]

Or are not happy in a marriage because you are depressed?
Will leaving make you happier or worse???

Imagine yourself leaving the marriage - does it make you feel better? Or worse? Don't know if that helps, sorry if not.

Maybe turn it on its head & ask what would make you feel less depressed? If you are depressed it can be hard to see anything clearly because you are surrounded by the shrouding mist of gloom, but try and remember what made you feel light & happy & ask yourself what would you have to do to get back there again?

I suffer with depression (on meds) and have even before me and dh got together and even though I still have my bad days I am 100% certain it is never him, there seems to be no reason for it, I just get low but I know it would be much worse with out him.
I Would definately think how you would feel if he wasn't around, if you feel the same or worse then it is not him.
As long as there is no violence etc in marriage I would say go to doctors ask for counselling referral and see if they can help you realise what is making you down but don't break up a marriage if you don't know the reason for it as you would forever regret it if wasn't him!
Remember depression doesn't always have a reason it is an imbalance of chemical in our brain and even if we have "perfect" lives we will feel down for no "good" reason.
Please see your GP x

that's a good question.

I had a lot of anger issues in my life, and had a very unhappy relationship (not married but co-habitting) for many years.
the anger came first, but i have not had the anger problem since i left him.

so, the two aren't necessarily cause by the other, but one could certainly aggravate the other.

I can't really say for sure, but I have suffered from depression, and at all points my DH was supportive and it never occurred to me that the relationship was the cause of it.

I would also suggest you see a Clinical Psychologist or an experienced counsellor to get to the bottom of it.

Are you addressing the depression through meds or counselling?

What is it in the marriage that is unhappy-making? If you have a loving supportive dh who treats you well and doesn't shoot you down or hurt you, and you're unhappy but can't quite put your finger on why, then I'd suspect it was the depression.

If you have damn good reasons to be miserable in the marriage, then the depression is probably situational.