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did joint counselling help?

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lopsybonse · 23/01/2006 13:04

A friend and her husband have split (at his volition, the usual younger-girl-in-the-office scenario). The two of them have two boys and he has agreed to go to counselling to help work through their feelings, although he has also made clear that he wants out, whatever.
They have just had their first session of counselling and my friend is now feeling worse than ever. She is asking me for advice about what to do and quite frankly, I have no idea as I have never had counselling and my marriage hasn't broken up.
So, I just wanted to ask fellow mumsnetters who have been through divorce/counselling what they thought of it?
Sorry, its a very vague question, but I really don't have a hook on whether it is better to stop joint counselling and all the negative stuff that comes from her husband (things like: we always had a roller coaster relationship, I've been unhappy for three years, I couldn't talk to you as you never listen etc etc) OR whether it is better to battle through it, and come out the other end with your emotional baggage a little better sorted?
Many thanks for any advice/experiences you may have.

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MrsMiggins · 23/01/2006 19:21

is she talking about mediation?
thats once the marriage is over and meant to help partners come to terms / sort things out amicably

I doubt they are going to relate if H is so sure its over

if it IS mediation, it may be too raw / too soon for your friend

I went 2 weeks ago to mediation, and was nearly turned down cos the counsellor said it seemed too raw for me to be discussing things with my H

however I am going and am hoping it will help in the end

HTH

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