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I went on a date with this guy - it was great but then I made the mistake of sleeping with him on the first date, he has still kept in contact texting me from the moment he finishes work to when he goes to sleep. I always get a night text which is sweet.
he always asks me how my day was - my ex never ever text me this much, its about four/five hours a day.

so if it was a one night stand he would have cut all ties right ?
but he stayed over last night and i made a big mistake of asking him are we in a relationship and he said I'm not sure what I want.
I know i was wrong to sleep with him on the first date I know that now, but he still kept in contact after that.
I know it was too soon to ask if he wanted a relationship - and now I think he does like to text me but men are scare of getting in a corner and the relationship word.
or is scared as i have a child from a previous relationship as this is a lot to take on i.e the ex the child etc x

Nothing wrong with sleeping with him on the first date if it's what you wanted.

Your mistake was in assuming this means you are in a relationship, or even heading towards a relationship.

Sounds to me like he's being completely honest with you. He isn't sure what he wants. What he currently seems to want is to carry on dating you and sleeping with you. While possibly doing the same with several or numerous other women too. Nothing wrong with that, he didn't make you any promises.

My advice - if you enjoy his company and the sex is good then carry on enjoying it for what it is, without any expectations, and see where it leads.

yes it was a joint choice - no you are right he never made me any promises only from the start that he did mention he wanted a relationship
we are both adults -the sex is good.
I just can't get my head around the fact he text me alot if it was just sex.

Nothing wrong with sex on first date but for crying out loud NEVER ask "is this a relationship". It would kill it stone dead for me if a man asked me this so early on. In my experience all these questions end up being answered naturally as the relationship progresses if it is meant to be.

I am in a similar situation btw, endless texts and meeting up every couple of weeks. We are getting slightly closer, very slowly, this is how it should be imvho.

Texting does not = relationship.

It might mean that he likes you... it might mean that he's bored and likes to make the most of his 2000 free texts.

Just let things progress naturally, at their own pace.

It's perfectly possible for a guy to want to sleep with you and spend time with you, to enjoy your company, and still not want a relationship with you due to some other constraint. He might have doubts about getting involved with someone with a kid. He might secretly dislike certain things about you that are long-term compatibility issues which don't affect short term dating so much, like if you smoke or don't exercise or you're a member of the BNP or something.

'More than sex' does not mean he wants a relationship. It's not that black and white, there are more than two options.

You are in a relationship of some sort, since you enjoy each other's company and sleep together. You just have to work out what type of relationship, and whether it's short term or for longer.
I can't see how it was wrong of you to sleep with him the first night. You enjoyed it, you're grown up, why not? And you haven't scared him off, have you? So carry on seeing him, to discover whether it's going to be a close and regular affair, or whether you're friends-with-benefits.

Most importantly, do you like him?

just to say thanks for the reply's
and Taghain yes i do like him alot but its just the way he keeps in contact when we don't see each other.