Confession time - I am a man! If that does not get me banned, please give me some advice here.
My brother called me last week, and told me that he and his Mrs of 10+ years were having a few problems, and that they were going to go to counselling. They are both 40-ish. I was shocked, as there has never been any inkling of any issues. He came round to chat at the week-end, and basically broke down. He is a mess emotionally. They have teen kids, a great home and both have great jobs. She has told him - out of the blue - that she no longer wants to be with him. She doesn't want him sexually, doesn't wants kisses or cuddles etc., and doesn't want to carry on living as a couple. He is absolutely devastated. I hate seeing him like this.
He has suggested counselling, to try to save their marriage. She thinks it is pointless, but has agreed to attend a session anyway. From what he has told me, and from her recent behaviour, I see no way back from this. The thing is, he is a wreck, and I don't know what to tell him or how to help him. I think he is in for months of pain, until he can accept that it is over. I am not able (or particularly willing) to do anything to get them back together. I don't have the skills or the knowledge to do that. Has anybody else been in this situation? How do I help him to cope? Thanks in advance for any advice.