Advice needed- invite from people I have good reason to loathe

[PeachyClair]

Hi all. Mumsnet Jury needed if you don't mind, I agree to go woth the majority.

Had an e-mail today from someone is Dh's old Carnival Club. Now, if you're not from where we are from then you won't get the scene, so please imagine it takes over your life as much as a religion. Three days a week minimum, all your cash, your friends, the lot.

Anyway, Dh was in this extremely successful club when we met and his whole life, being single and living with his Mum, was based on it. I stayed on the sideleine, something about them I didn't quite like- the way they would talk down to DH, mainly, and the way all the women were cliquey and offy with me (bar 2). They all saw me as an inconvenience also, got in the way of carnival.

Anyway I joined another club with DH, got pg so he went back to the original one whilst I dropped out. Eventually though DH persuaded me to join too, didn't want to but did it for him.

I went to the meetings, spoke up loads and offered to do plenty. Went away for the weekend with them (hated it) and whilst i was away they booted me out, didn't do enough apparently. Pah, did more than DH for sure. At least offered to, messages of help offers, arranging times etc never passed on by this one particular chap.

DH phoned up furious, this chap promised to (he was the captain) to sort it out- he 'suddenly remembered' the offers, messages etc. Well of course he didn't, he went in and lied about me. Dh was there, heard every word and told him what he thought and walked out. We now have a kids club, if Dh sees the old guys around he chats, I walk away (apart from a few people who I know defended me).

I am not a liar and will not be called one.

Anyway, today in my inbox an e-mail from one of the nicer ones asking us to a reunion do next month, invite in post.

Do I: Say no bloody way, never acknowledging them again (which i'd like to but love Dh too much I think)

Let Dh go alone, which would break his heart I suspect, he likes me with him.

Adopt a false grin, go along and sink into the background, miserable as anything.

Spend too much money on a glam outfit (very glam venue), go along and wow them. Except most of their wives look like supermodels and are about 23. Blonde and skinny, the lot of them.

Help!!!!! Don't want to upset Dh but this will be TORTURE!

I'm not great socially, quite shy really, at the best of times.

I realise a lot of this is down to a personality clash: they're more blonde skinny bouncy Anthea Turner types: I'm a scarlet haired, size 12, Kaiser Chiefs, faff free and sarky.

Ah the freinds thing is a BIG issue. i don't know anyone here eiher, bar a few others from Uni who are nice, but all famale and mainly all younger. Plus he works opposite shifts to everyone else, tho he is trying to change this.

Wish I cold help him there, just don't know how.

It is a very clicky village btw and we only moved here in June. there's a few school mums will talk to me, bt I only know one name, and that's by default.

(Which Is why I am on here all day long, you see)

HELP

It's tomorrow

dreading it.

Just been on their website and not only are they recruiting (virtually unknown) they ahve set up a kids club... I run a kids club, or help anyway so I think this is a recruitment technique. re-recruitment I guess.

variations on you can take your stupid club, marinate it in tabasco and stuff it where the sun don't shine please.

DH will want to go back I know

Really dreading it and absolutely don't want to go.

Think of me.

I can't do this. Only agreed to go as Dh requested for his birthday, now regret badly.

Panic attacks a plenty already.

Could you be conveniently 'ill'?

ohh, pc (snobbish emoticon) i know in the area where I am from the carnival wasn't such a big deal as where you are where it is the biggest deal, but we are not carnival lovers as a family.

I really really wouldn't want to go. Not my kind of people and probably not yours. I'd be very reluctant for DH to go, but I know he has not been happy and it might be that this needs to be something he does on his own and you have to understand it isn't a slight on you but a need to have some social interaction outside the home. for you. xxx

Have you any rescue remedy? Dilute some in some water and sip at it on the way there

And whilst there...SMILE... they will wonder what you are up to

bach rescue remedy works well.

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Headache, that's what you need. And you might well get one if you panic enough. Also get the wine out tonight and you won't have to pretend tomorrow.

Floss, I would dearly love him to go alone but he flatly refuses, has paid in advance now so if ill he'll be rather angry. No, I have to go. And ther ARE some nice poelpe in the club- actually can think of 3 only out of many that I'd want to avoid at all costs. (PS apaprently Yeovil carnival may be a thing of the past you'll be pleased to know ).

Will focus on that and (great idea) Bachs Rescue Remedy. And vodka. Lots of vodka. Lovely yummy vodka.

DH not here to see panic, so not being evil. If DH were evil would be easy to tell him to go alone. Dh adorable and lovely. Dh deserves this.

I will make a mantra-

only 3 people were mean really
the vodka will make up for them
and Dh will be really chiffed with you

repeat until Sunday.

(And just in case anyone from club reads this, if you know I mean you then I do, if not then I don't. That will make sense to certain people}.

Sigh. I'm off for a bottle of wine.

hang on a sec- they stuffed me, why do I feel bad? Why am I here terrified,wondering if they're reading this as well, when actually THEY should be ashamed?

Sod it. I'm going to spend all day tomorrow looking fabulous (last time they saw me I was fat, now I am a size 10-12 tee hee) and grin vacuously all the way through.

Plus my hair is the same colour as boden shiny ad womans cardi so that'll upset their colour theme!!!! Ha ha ha ha ha.

Send me diva vibes please. I AM a diva. I AM THE Diva.

And remeber you've got that lovely gorgoues balck & white outfit

If you look really different since the lasttime they saw you - pretend to be dh's lover.

Tee-hee-hee, say "Oh no we don't talk about Mrs Peachyclaire"

Imagine the fun you could have........

Was snowing this morning and got my hopes up but all melted now.

I've got a horrible feeling that they want DH back in the club, I now he'd be tempted but I know also he likes being in charge of his stuff in a small club, rather than an bit player in a big club.

I've two outfits btw . Dorothy Perkins dress (on their website) that is ivory (they can lump it) with a black spriggy pattern that I really adore (sends my figure up a treat) or a black corset I already had with a black velver skirt, skirt is loose at the waist though which is offputting.

Whichever will be worn with black heels (40's style), pearls necklace (OK beads ), ear rings and pink candyfloss hair.

And yes, those on the style council, the ear rings are dangly with short hair... however I think pink hair is a get out of jail free card on convention.