to want to be a sex slave

[slavetobe]

hope this is not a taboo subject here.

i have a great husband but i am rather shy in the bedroom.

i think it would help me aslong as there was a safe word, would this be risky or not

How would you being a slave help you gain confidence?!

Surely you should be the dominator?

the thing is i have to be in control and will only do things i am comfortable doing.

my idea is that if i become a slave then perhaps i will have control of not having control

Because OP would be 'obliged' to do things she is too shy to do 'of her own free will' within the fantasy. And would be free to enjoy them without guilt (if there were any lurking hang ups).

But if you are not comfortable doing something, then having no choice about doing it is only going to make you feel worse surely?

You have your boundaries for whatever reason, and you should stay within them. Is this your idea or has it come from elsewhere?

Presumaby you want to enact this scenario out with your husband? How does he feel about being your master?

it is my idea.

the safe word would be used if i do not like it.

like i have never allowed my husband to do any other than the 1 postion i have wanted.

if that make sense

so what's the question? are you too nervous to suggest it to him? or asking us to come up with a 'safe' word?

to be honest i do not know what i want out of a sex life, I am a control freak down to routine in housework ect

i want to enjoy sex without putting it in to schedule

How does your husband feel about it? It is quite a big responsibilty to take on.

ah ok. you want to be controlled as a relief from your normal behaviour - well, try it, why not? if you dont like it, try other things, as you don't know what exactly you want.

have not spoken to my husband yet

whether he;s up to it, it a question though, as he's probably quite submissive as a personality?

it's a question

Why do you need to become a sex slave to solve the problem? If your hubby is still up then go tell him you want him to screw you any way he wants and you'll see how it goes. (yeah, I know, last of the great romantics here....)

The problem is is that the sex slave thing is your control freak idea- let him solve the problem (if indeed, there is a problem- if you're both having fun with the 1 position, then whatever) and see how it goes.

And you can fantasize about being controlled while sort of not being, iyswim. Imagine your partner is a sultan/slave owner/whatever, imagine his commands and then do them - your husband will most likely be delighted

Many people need the other partner complicit in the fantasy for it to work - I say go for it, but choose the safe word carefully to make sure it is nothing that you would say accidently or easily confused with another word.
Also ensure your DH understands that safe word means stop immediately regardless of where he is in the process

I see what you mean now.

You dont need to be a sex slave, but you can pretend to be as PinkPussycat said. You can play at slave/master without needing safe words etc. Role play is your friend here.

Master of the house/maid, Boss/secretary, Landlord/student who cant afford the rent etc. OK so they are all really cheesy stereotypes but they are harmless and could be fun.

benefit of a safe word is it stops it when either person wants. Playing at slave/master, the slave can use words such as no, stop, don't hurt me, in the fantasy and the master knows this is just role play. Without a safe word, how do you know the slave genuinely wants to stop?

trust this one 4 sure ; in the sex slave/master scheme it is the slave who is in control , assuming (prob wrongly ?)u have discussed the limits ? he/she cannot do what u have not previously agreed to , ergo ,communication is 1st , great sex after >no dis. doesn t fab sex start at the brain , then the mouth , talking , then then then > took me ages doing vanilla 2 get "here"

Well I wouldn't use those words in the fantasy. Mine was all in my head, mostly, (though you need a partner who is firm in his approach so to speak), so it wasn't a problem. Stop meant stop.

You sound confused, I would of thought that there could be some gradual middle ground between sex only in one position, then sex slave. Have you asked him if he wants a sex slave? Is this your idea or his? How do you go from claiming shyness to full on kink, seems a tad odd.

My roleplay suggestion: sorcerer / ZOMBIEEEEE!!!!!!!