How to keep relationship healthy?

[patagonia09]

My husband and I have a fantastic relationship, and I love him more than life itself. Our first baby was born a week ago and I'm in the middle of baby blues. My main fear (on a list of about 3,000 items) is that the baby will drive us apart, lead to rows, ruin our lives, destory our relationship, etc. I constantly want to curl up with DH and cuddle and feel the baby is kind of intruding. Anyone else experience this? And how can I get a grip? (AND make sure none of these fears come true?). Any advice gratefully received.

Relax, you are racing ahead of yourself, the baby is a week old, go with the flow, the three of you should enjoy this time together it goes by so fast. If you want to cuddle DH alone do. When you have a baby your world turns upside down, your head too. If you feel your worries and thoughts are getting out of control talk to someone, your health visitor or good friend.

What Duke said :)

and congrats on the new baby :)

Make sure you have some time alone with your H even if it's only a little bit. I hope you've told your H that you want to curl up with him and cuddle because I think they sometimes feel left out, don't let your baby rule the roost, I think that's important. And enjoy your baby :)

Congratulations on your new baby!
I remember those first weeks well..the exhaustion, the exhilaration and the sheer terror of being responsible for this tiny being! I wasted so much time trying to be Super Mum and Super Wife when I should've been getting to know my baby son. When my hormones settled a little we told all the well meaning relatives to go away and just enjoyed each new experience. Yes we had rows because we were sleep deprived but that's not what I remember most about that time..and I'm betting you won't either!:o

And you could all cuddle up together as well.

It's natural to feel a bit wooh with a firstborn as it's all so new (not minimising your blues though) - I still remember being in hospital with DS and feeding him in the middle of the night and realising that omg I am going to have to change a nappy - staff had done it up to then. And that's nearly 24 years ago.

And let the housework slide as much as you like :)