so the man I was kind of embarking on a relationship with is going out with his ex this evening

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because he thinks she wants to get back together. Should I be pissed off? WE haven't really got into a proper relationship yet, though it was definitely on the cards and moving that way. And we have had sex, I know, I know...... Feel decidedly cheesed off about it but I really hvae not offered anything in the way of promises of a relationship or a future.

How funny is this. We had talked about going out next Fri or Sat for Valentines but now I have just been asked by someone else so I'm going with him instead . how's that for karma? Cheers girls

Good one!!!!!

Great :)

Has he actually called you yet to discuss what he meant earlier?

I agree with Koda - being more committed would have just got you more hurt, it wouldn't have changed what he's done. Git.

chpping - I texted him and said "I'm guessing things are back on with ex, I have now made other plans for next weekend." He obv had to tell me then. And offered the usual apols, 'I respect for you blah blah de blah, hope this hasn't ruined our friendship.....etc....type shit ...ywan.....and I told him he was a shit and as for respecting me 'yeah sure you do.......
Still fucked off though. When he came round fri to tell me he was seeing his ex on saturday, he tried to get me into bed then.. Er...no - I don't think so! Prick

I like your style, 2T

you kick ass, keep it that way

I hope you have a great night with someone else than this weak and washy arsehole

Oh - you should have mentioned that in your OP (that he tried to get you into bed on Friday when he was telling you he was seeing his ex on Saturday) I would have been much quicker to tell you to bin him Git of the highest order.

I hope you have a fun date this week!! :)

Thank you all, no doubt I will find the need to post on here again!

Anyfucker - I love that you perceive me as someone who "kicks ass". I can defo live with that!

it will be a bit awks with our dd's being bff an all that. . Moreso for him though I hope, as he is the one who as fucked up.

Oh you have to keep posting - I want to know how your date goes this weekend

chipping - for sure! Watch this space............

yeah, it's awkward for him

he let you down, you did nuffin wrong

remember that

He didn't do anything wrong either, though. The OP states that this was not a relationship yet, so there had been no agreement to exclusivity. OP, if sex is, for you, something that means commitment, you need to be clear about that to anyone you are likely to have sex with before you have sex. It's never a good idea to have sex and then assume that the other person is therefore committed to you.

solid - yes we were in a relationship. Early stages yes but definitely had an understanding between us We met in October, we went out a couple of times. We got on really well but had talked about how difficult it is to make plans as a lone parent. We had expressed that we were growing fond of each other and after xmas talked about seeing each other regularly - even if that meant once or twice a month children/childcare permitting. We said we were both happy with that and also happy that we had found someone who understood the dynamics and difficulties of our situation. Within those talks I obviously thought that meant that were exclusive to one another. We did not have sex and then assume that each other were committed. It was at least two months later when we had sex. so, yes, I am right to feel disappointed.

2T- When you have to see him just be breezy. Don't bother being cool or offhand, don't ask him how he is etc. He knows the score, he is aware of what he's done. He just doesn't realise what he has let go in you. I really hope his ex is special because you are one amazing person. Look on the bright side, you found out now he is a waste of space, not a year in (or more).

Hope your date goes well this weekend.

lazarush - good advice - I'll do my best to appear 'breezy'. I think the thing that gets to me the most is the ease with which he has moved me to one side in favour of his ex. they have obv been texting/chatting for a little while so why keep stringing me along and having these heart to heart discussions etc. I feel a right fucking mug. . Anyway, onwards and upwards as they say.

Don't blame yourself. As Chipping pointed out, you have not been bereaved for that long and he either thought he could use that to his advantage, or, he someone he could perhaps help (I'm being VERY charitable there!).

He is the one who has behaved badly and dishonestly here. I would absolutely pull him up on it but I think you've had a lucky escape and be grateful he didn't 'choose' you!

RUN !!!!!

oh I have run far far away! He was even sending suggestive texts yesterday. He is a total twat and I am sooo glad to be rid. Cheers!