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Did you have babies after divorce?

18 replies

catrin · 03/02/2012 22:11

Long, tedious story...
But question is, did you move on and have more babies after xp? I have one, 6, and my dream (my dream clearly) was lots. I just don't feel ready to give up on more. But I' m 37. Am I too old/unrealistic?

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SparkleSoiree · 03/02/2012 22:16

I had my two children by the time I divorced at 29 and had my 3rd baby with my second husband when I was 35.

Fantastic.

Charliesangel2009 · 03/02/2012 22:19

I divorced at 34. Met DH when I was 36 and had DS at 38. Never been happier

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catrin · 03/02/2012 22:24

Lovely news for you both! Exactly what I need to hear.

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theoldtrout01876 · 04/02/2012 01:33

Had my 3rd Dc at 30,divorced at 37 remarried and had Dd2 at 40 :o
never been happier

hairytaleofnewyork · 04/02/2012 02:56

Yes. I got divorced after 15 yrs . 2.5 yrs later I've just had my first baby aged nearly 44.

somanymiles · 04/02/2012 03:51

Had a baby with new DH when I was 40. So you have lots of time! Not sure if I will have more though. already have DD aged 9 and DS aged 12.

EttiKetti · 04/02/2012 05:20

Oh yes! Had one when met dh, then two more with him. It's bloody fabulous, you WILL!!

jjgirl · 04/02/2012 07:34

I was married for 12 years to an emotionally abusive man to whom I would never have risked having children. Found a much nicer man not long after he left and had a baby at 38. Sadly DS has ASD so I don't think DH will ever want another one. But at least I have had the chance to have one.

Gigondas · 04/02/2012 07:37

Not divorced but left long term relationship at 33- had dd age 36 and dd2 age 39. Sorry shameless hijack- congrats hairy what did you have and how are you doing?

Proudnscary · 04/02/2012 08:10

My friend got divorced at 30. Met new man last year, aged 39, is now 22 weeks preggo with first baby at 40

singingprincess · 04/02/2012 09:05

I had ds when I was 33, and dd when I was 41, with a divorce in between.
I have a friend who conceived naturally at 53...bless her, she thought it was the menopause!

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catrin · 04/02/2012 09:21

Thank you for all your replies, you have all given me hope. Now just need to find a nice man...

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SparkleSoiree · 04/02/2012 11:01

Catrin don't go looking for him...I wasn't looking for a relationship when I met DH, intact I was totally against one but when I met him and he pursued me it all 'felt right'.

It will happen when the time is right for you and your future man.

SparkleSoiree · 04/02/2012 11:01

intact=infact

hairytaleofnewyork · 04/02/2012 13:12

gig a girl, Tillie. I am recovering :) she's lovely (sorry for hijack).

Gigondas · 04/02/2012 15:22

That's great hairy (dd2 is Eloise) . Op- I can also think of two other late 30s divorcees who met and had kids in early 40s.

LeoTheLateBloomer · 04/02/2012 15:26

I've been thinking the same OP. I'm 32 with one DD and would love to have another. The only problem is that while there is a new, wonderful man in my life, he is 57 so I don't think it's my age that's going to be the problem

justanarsenal · 04/02/2012 17:40

I had DS at age 18 and divorced at 24. Remarried age 30 and now pg with DC2, I'm 37. Didn't really want to juggle two DC at the same time so decided to start again with another child when DS is due to leave for university.

We conceived naturally and quickly (2 months after getting Mirena removed), I think it is easier to conceive with a second (or later) dc as a mother over 35 than if it is your first.

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