I've had no sleep whatsoever so may be being irrational but he's just stumbled in, I've not been able to get hold of him since 12 cos he lost his phone, which is all he seems bothered about..no apology, in fact told me to shut up when kept asking where he'd been...now he's passed out..nice. generally marriage is up & down mainly due to drink issues..he's what you call a functioning alcoholic..or in denial...he goes to cbt to try to manage it and 90% of time is good husband & father..but then these episodes happen. Pls no preaching about alcoholism..I'm well aware of enabling etc..I just want to know if this would be the last straw for you?