she makes me feel really bad

[year2011]

i am a single mum of three btn 5-2.one with learning difficulties.
I recently made friends with one of the parents in the kids school,she was new to the area so i showed her around the area when free.she lives closer to one of the schools but she choose the other one which is about 20mins walk as she didnt like one closer.Now she expect me to pick and drop her ds at sch everyday bcos i drive n she doesnt .i told her she needs to know i have three kids n can not do it everyday bcos if my kids r late her ds will be late and i will be repnsbl 4 that.shes also got three kids and lives with partner and she choose to take her ds to dat sch.I always have to make sure my kids are in school rain or shine even when am ill,i still do it without anyones help.if i cant pick them up i pay for a childminder to pick them up.she wants me to pick her child if shes not well or shoping.
Shes refused to talk to me since i told her i cant do that everyday n she makes me feel bad about it.
what would u do in this situation?

Has she offered you any money or offered to reciprocate in any way? If not, don't feel bad.

I wouldn't do anything about her. She isn't a friend. Don't feel bad. Remove her from your life, spend time with other friends and let her get on with her sulking and non-speaking away from you.

It's really sad she's repaid your kindness like this. You shouldn't feel bad or guilty you've been really good to her. Her children are not your responsibility. Don't get manipulated into doing things for her. If she's not speaking to you then good, you don't need "friends" like that.

This happened to my mum, a woman cancelled her childminder and started dropping her kids at ours as one was the same age as me and expected me mum to be an unpaid minder. She had to tell this woman where to get off.

Some people will take take take.

I would be glad she had stopped talking to me and id leave it at that . You dont need people like this .

Thanks MalibuStacy;no she didnt,i wouldnt even want to worry her as shes got three of similar ages.Thanks a lot HellonHeels

You are obviously a really nice person. Please don't let people take advantage of you.

Forget it and her!

She chose a school for her ds 20mins walk from her home and it's her problem to get him to and from his place of education.

Some people take the piss advantage of the kindness of others and these individuals are best avoided.

You've got your hands full with your own 3 dc and there's no way that she should be asking, nor you should agree, to take on the additional responsibility of ferrying her ds to and from school unless you are a mug happy to do so.

That said, if it's peeing down with rain and you spot her/her partner walking with the ds as you're driving to school, it would be a kindness to stop and offer to give the ds a lift, but otherwise do not fall into the trap of being taken advantage of by those who see kindness as weakness.

There's absolutely no reason why you should feel bad about saying no to anything you are not perfectly happy and willing to do for someone else - and in mumsnet's perceived wisdom, 'no' is a complete sentence.

Good ridance to bad rubbish here I'd say OP.

Ignore here too.

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Thanks to you all.she know am still trying to cope with seperation and looking after my child with learning dfclts but i dnt thnk she cares.i will just ignore her as youve all adviced.thanks

You've told her you can't do it. She's refused to talk to you since then. You're not doing it. She's no friend so her not talking to you is no loss. I don't see the problem here?