i love you guys

[bejeezus]

There is an SINUS thread at the moment which is very disparaging of the relationships board

So, I just wanted to balance that with letting you all know how very very grateful I am for all the advice, support and hand holding I have received here

You have helped me through the most difficult and painful year of my life. From here's I have gained the strength to move me and my children towards a much more healthy and functional life, and I haves gained so much clarity and self awareness

So thank you 'frothers', froth away

Xxx

Some of you know me and watched me pretty much fall apart on New Year's Eve. I was booking a hotel at Beachy Head it wasn't for the views!

Being here and being talked to (and sometimes told off) felt like a crowd of women standing behind me, urging me to live.

Of course most of us have real life friends and relatives but I just couldn't tell them my sheer desperation. Here felt safe.

So this is a wonderful thread and I am pleased that there are others who have come back from the brink because of it.

Another fan here.

And massive (hugs) Punk, I remember your thread. You sound great.

this is a little disingenious tbh as I think you're misinterpreting a lot of what the other poster had to say

But if the board has helped you, then fair enough....

Its cos we all got tee's - been there, done that innit

You are all wise & lovely, heads off with the naysayers...

I don't have as Mum or sisters and lot of my life was spent with abusive norms. Reading Mumsnet gives me a much better perspective. And yes it is OK to say the hard truths that get said on here, so that we as women can understand what are really a part of and how to cope with it.

Disingenious: not straightforward or candid; insincere or calculating.

Misinterpret: to explain wrongly, to understand wrongly.

Cup if that was aimed at me i'm afraid your wrong. I was being perfectly straightforward and candid in my thanks to the posters who replied to my thread back then. All of them.

As for thinking i havn't understood - i find that comment presumptuous of you.

Yes this board has helped me.

I dont need your approval, thank you.

Thing is, I don't have the t-shirt, but what I learned on here helped more than one friend IRL. Plus, should I ever need the info for myself, I've got it.

It should be on the National Curriculum: red flags, the number for Women's Aid, what documentation you might need when fleeing an abusive relationship, etc. This board is bloody great.

if the board has helped you then fair enough ???

[shrugs]

Bejeezus thank you for starting this thread. I often sit in awe reading posts thinking the same thing. I often want to tell everyone, and I mean everyone, how wonderful I think they are(even the more er, eccentric posters). The giving of time, and of thought, and of experience. The wake up calls, the humour, the love, all amongst a bunch of strangers on the Internet, it's nothing short of bloody wonderful.
Thank you to all the contributors to this board. Restorers of faith every one of you.

This is the only place I was not encouraged to stay with the cheat that was breaking my heart and ruining my life. That includes my friends and family

One kind poster gave my H the epithet 'manipulative and spineless' to counter the 'scared and confused' he gave himself.

That helped...more than that poster will ever know

What a wonderful thread. I've posted my complicated life on several "names" over the last twelve months and each comment has made me understand more and come to the right decisions, alebit, sometimes round the scenic route. Thank you so much everyone and I hope I'll be around these parts for several years to come!

I've learnt so much - and I couldn't have got that from my real life friends and family.

This board is great, for all the reasons as expressed above by posters more eloquent than I. Just wanted to add my support.

I will be forever grateful that I came across this board when my H had his affair - I was given the heads up that there is an OW and was given sound advice even though I found some of it very difficult to take in.

I know I would definitely be in a very different place, mentally and emotionally if it wasn't for you guys.

the Dog house sent me here....and how right they were!

Here's to all you women (and some men) on the journey of life...good and bad!!!

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