Was with my ex p for 10 years from the ages of 20 ? 30, we broke up as we were no longer intimate with each other. We became best of friends but more like a brother and sister. He had been my first boyfriend and I had begun to wonder what it would be like to be with someone else. So we broke up and it was heartbreaking but was interesting to find myself as single adult for the first time. We remained friends and would still see each other and after a year I realised that I wanted to try again, but he was happy being single and said that he saw me as nothing more than his best friend?and I fell apart as I think in the back of my mind I had always thought he would be the father of my children and that we would grow old together. I stayed single for three years trying to sort myself out as felt so low. I ended up leaving the town which we lived in to move to another area as I thought that would help me get over him. It did and I met someone new who is lovely. After a year my ex?s dad died and he got back in touch and said he wanted to try again as his fathers death had made him revaluate his life and he realised that he wanted to be with me. After spending so long getting over him I didn?t want to give up everything I had now after such a slog. But now im in a quandary as to what to do. My partner now I love to bits but I find the relationship very hard at times with the dynamics of an ex and daughter. We don?t get much quality time together and we still haven?t been on holiday together even after three years. He is 15 years older than me and has a small child who he is devoted to and coparents. And I often feel frustrated that we aren?t always on the same page. I want to think about having a child and my partner is keen but I have concerns about his age and the fact that we don?t spend enough quality time together. We don?t live together as yet but he is keen for us to do this, but I have slight reservations. I think since my ex came back on the scene, I have been comparing them both which is horrid I know. My ex knows me better than anyone, and we had such history together and I still love him and we are both have the same interests and want the same things. He is nearer my age and also wants to have children. But I don?t feel that spark with him. And I don?t know whether that is because I am in love with someone else or whether it just isnt there. I don?t know whether to throw myself into the relationship I am in now and embrace all that it entails or whether to chance it with my ex who offers a secure future and hope that we can work on the spark. Im comign to the end of the 30?s and my biological clock is ticking madly and I?m worried about time and making the right decision. Any advice, experience welcomed?