Crap he said he misses me....

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This could be a long story, but ill try to keep it short.

I was seeing a guy for nearly a year. We got on well but i didnt feel he treated me how i wanted to be treated.

Anyway, we had an argument I walked out and neither of us bothered to call the other one. Now he has contacted me nearly 3months later, I have been rude and off with him, but still talking to him as I'm trying to get some answers about certain things.

He just said he misses me and I feel like crying. I miss him too, and while I am arguing with him, I'm ok, I feel like he is always confusing me and playing games. But when he just straight up says he misses me I wana cry... God I'm annoyed with myself and lost as to what I should say or do

he says he misses you, but does he understand why you left? does he sound like he will try to make you happy and knows what to do now?
If so - why not give him a chance as there is a lot of feeling there from you - if not, well then it's best not proplong the misery by having contact.

Absolutely nothing i'd say - leave well alone.

You said yourself he didn't treat you how you want (and deserve to be) treated and one 'I miss you' after three months is really a paltry offering.

There's better out there for you OP with or without a partner - keep believing that and making a life that brings you happiness and fulfilment first and formost.

My ex used to do this. It was his way of getting back in my good books. Cut to six months alter and it was the same old shit.

Be careful with those rose tinted glasses.

What 'certain things' do you need answers to?

In what way didn't he treat you the way you wanted to be treated?

thank you both for the replies.

we have only been messaging each other, so i have not gone into details yet.

God this guy really seems to get into my head thats how i feel right now.

i just felt like he made me believe he wanted a relationship but then when i was getting closer to him, he didnt treat me as i would expect a boyfriend to treat me.

but bearing in mind that he spent alot of time saying he wanted us to be in a relationship and i was saying i didnt want to because i had just come out of a relationship and was scared.

It sounds to me as if you're trying find excuses for him treating you in a disrespectful manner.

I'm getting the feeling that this guy might be a bit of a player. They blow hot and cold; they also get hot when you're cold and get off on being able to take up with their victims again after a split.

Some will effect a reunion with their victims purely for the pleasure of splitting up again.

And so the cycle continues...

As the perceived wisdom of these boards has it, an ex is an ex for a reason and I suspect that once you enter into a relationship with a guy who treats the way you deserve to be treated, you won't give this one a second thought.

Just cut contact with him.

It's not likely that he will treat you better this time.