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Confused and want to help my friend.

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harbingerofdoom · 30/01/2012 19:08

She split from her BF at Christmas-mutual-agreed to part.
She is moving on and is happy but has to contact him at times due to work.
He has a new GF.
All should be okay but he has started rubbing her nose in it as to how fantastic newGF is. More worrying is how he's saying wish I'd never met you and other very abusive comments.
Why would he bother?
Immature but why?

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oldenoughtowearpurple · 30/01/2012 19:11

I really don't know, but it sounds like she is well shot of him. Personally I would support her by encouraging her to Rise Above and thank her lucky stars for her escape.

KatieScarlett2833 · 30/01/2012 19:14

I would suggest laughter as a fitting retort for when he comes out with the bollox.

ThisIsNotMyLife · 30/01/2012 19:22

Why is she still speaking to him?

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harbingerofdoom · 30/01/2012 19:26

Not speaking physically but need to be in contact at times due to work.

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iklboo · 30/01/2012 19:29

The obvious answer to 'I wish I'd never net you' is 'so do I. That's x years of my life I'll never get back'.
Or 'The local primary school called. They want their attempts at bullying back. What was it you wanted again?'

iklboo · 30/01/2012 19:29

met

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harbingerofdoom · 30/01/2012 19:41

Concur with all you are saying - but why?
I know he was in tears when they parted.....

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ThisIsNotMyLife · 30/01/2012 19:43

She should be civil and ask him to stop, preferably by email. If he continues, report him to a superior for harrassment. Otherwise, keep contact to a minimum and maintain the moral high ground. Life is too short to subject yourself to wankers like that.

Now take the girl for a drink to celebrate her lucky escape!

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harbingerofdoom · 30/01/2012 20:52

Contact has stopped. Removed from FB and mobile.
Still wants to know why......
He is a

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harbingerofdoom · 30/01/2012 22:52

ok why?

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harbingerofdoom · 01/02/2012 20:57

If new girl friend relationship is going so well. Why do the retaliation thing.

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LadyMedea · 01/02/2012 21:03

Second mylife.... That is now harassment if it's happening in a work contex... Get your friend to keep a log and talk to HR.

kodachrome · 01/02/2012 21:10

Why? Maybe because he was in tears when they split and he felt she wasn't hurt enough by it? Maybe because she's doing fine without him? Maybe cos he's an asshole? He clearly wants to hurt her.

I wouldn't read into it that the new gf isn't all she's cracked up to be or anything like that. Some guys just can't bear it if their ex doesn't fall apart without them.

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harbingerofdoom · 01/02/2012 21:27

kodachrome looks like that doesn't it? How sad......
Thank you for your reply-it states what I've been thinking.

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